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I'm a longtime goat, mostly lurker. I'm not the typical demographic - a woman, widow, two kids hitting the teen years, very traditional but have to work due to circumstances. My son is hitting 12 - he's a big kid, already taller than me and built like a linebacker. Not great at sports but likes weightlifting. Some proficiency at engineering, but a huge lack of discipline. He has difficulty making friends but is generally a kind and sensible person. But he is lazy and I worry how he'll fair having grown up without a dad at home; he also gets disrespectful with me and its difficult without "backup". I don't date and he has one grandfather, who is a useless boomer lib who offers no credible advice. How do I get him through this period of his life and turn him into a decent productive member of society. Boot camp? Is there a reputable boy scout like club? I also want to dodge Pedos. Note, we live in a heavily military area and I work for a government contractor in a large military community area, so there are lots of military based "stuff" available. We go to Church as well. I just want to make sure I'm doing it right, and certainly prepared to invest the time effort in the right track.