Upgoat - "where a goat can be a goat"

Kikes still seeth about this event and re-write the entire thing to about the Germans getting beat by Jesse Owen’s and whatnot. Jesse himself mentioned that he was treated more nicely in Germany (and by Hitler) than by Americans at home.

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Boyakasha 5 points 10 months ago

We should buy these and donate them to Israel.

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Boyakasha 1 point 11 months ago

Enriched.

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Boyakasha 3 points 11 months ago*

4. Too funny about the candy. lol

5/6. Leaving the scene is the easiest method for dealing with conflict. If he pops off, seriously, just take the kids and go anywhere until he cools off. Don't engage with fighting, insults, etc. If he gets physical, try to record while you're leaving and call the cops if necessary. Consider setting up the farm house as a place to escape to. It would be best if he didn't know about it or couldn't track you there.

7. This is the by far the hardest thing on the list to address. Your childhood background is playing a massive part here (thanks mom). This is why I mentioned value in #4. Build and retain your value. Value is where you can build and genuinely believe self worth. Obviously, this is massively easier when you're young, fit, and childless, but there are men that will still value traditional wives with kids. Your problem right now is that you can re-read your original post and think "this is still better than being alone." Until that perspective changes, you'll keep eating all of his bullshit and driving your self esteem and value further down through the floor.

And finding another man half as good? He's failing you completely. You can't divide zero by 2. You need to separate for a bit and clear your head. Hopefully, it'll make him re-think his situation as well. The situation that you're in today sounds like complete hell. Living alone has its own challenges, but your kids need stability. His bullshit is out of fucking control. Even his visits should be fucking supervised. There are better men out there, I promise you. You just have to work to be worth it. They're only looking for a woman that makes their life better.

Also, one last tip. Never shit on him to your kids. Always make sure that your kids see him in the best light. Let him fuck up the relationships with them on his own time.

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Boyakasha 3 points 11 months ago

Some thoughts here in no particular order. I'm a very RP'd man and admittedly biased against modern women, but there's ZERO fucking excuse for the bullshit that he's putting you through. Reading this pissed me the fuck off.

1. The cheating at the brothel is a deal breaker. It's massively disrespectful, breaks trust, puts your health at risk, and shows a childish level of impulse control. He's a complete piece of shit for doing it and no apologies can fix this level of degeneracy. It's not just the act itself, but that he's capable of the act that's the bigger issue.

2. (If you're considering working through it) Apologies don't mean shit without action. If he's really done with drinking and driving his own change, then consider sticking it out. If he's acting like a pouting child that's being deprived of his love in life and treating you with resentment for it, then pack your shit and move on. You can't drag an alcoholic to recovery. They have to lead the charge and need to be 100% dead set against drinking

3. He's minimally providing, blowing his cash, putting your family at risk, treating you like absolute dog shit, disrupting your quality of life, etc. You'll literally be better off alone.

4. As a married woman, don't let yourself physically go under any condition. Lose the weight and continue to improve at your craft. Show your kids what it means to be a traditional wife and be their hero. Physically letting yourself go reduces your value, and shows disrespect to your husband and family. It's no different than a well earning man that decides to stop working and providing once getting married. No bueno.

5. Let him solve his own problems. Lost his phone/wallet/keys while drunk? Tough shit, figure it out. If he acts like a dick, time to pack a bag and the kids and head out. I can't REMOTELY fucking imagine treating a spouse like that for problems that I created.

6. Work on your self-respect. Always aim to be nice, respectful, and calm. Tolerate nothing but the same from him. Bullshit that you tolerate, you promote. No reason to escalate with him. Just keep calm and leave the scene when he's pulling bullshit.

7. If you leave, really evaluate your man picking ability. For alcoholism to not be a big enough red flag to dodge this guy is a serious problem. Try to work on why this guy was your best option in a sea of solid, hard working guys out in the world. If you need the drama or the emotional ups/downs to feel something in a relationship, then relationships probably aren't for you and you'll continue to end up in situations with damaged men.

I sincerely wish you the best. You have a tough road ahead, but you'll come out better for it. Please keep us updated.