Correcting children (Family)
submitted by Razzoriel to Family 1.2 years ago
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You heard it a lot from the Stephen Molyneux types that spanking is awful, barbaric and scars your children for life, and should never happen. Well, that is only half the story.
Children like to test their boundaries. EVERY TIME. You know how women like to shit test you? Women are like children in that sense. Having a child and bringing them up is a cornucopia of tests they will give you. Test your patience, knowledge, lungs, physical fitness, and even your social skills. You need to stay sharp around your kids, because their survival also depends on that.
So when they behave wrongly, parents accordingly need to correct that. The easiest way is to incentivize correct behaviour, but that alone does not cut it. The infamous finger on the power outlet image needs correction. And a stern "no" will sometimes not suffice.
Grounding is a good way to punish bad behaviour. The "discipline corner" has limitations, and kids will wander away if you are not aware. When it does, its a good punishment, but it can be misused when parents let kids stay there for more than ten minutes. Kids have awful notions of time. Grounding them for ten minutes or an hour for them is the same for discipline, but they grow irritated and annoyed in the latter, escalating further issues down the day.
Finally, spanking is a tool that is your last resort, and can NEVER be liberally used. Kids need to understand that if they insist on their errors, physical punishment is a possibility. Obviously, a slap on the leg/arm with enough strength to cause mild pain is the same as swinging a belt multiple times. Again, they only understand the concept, not the gravity. And the more you use physical punishment, the less they will believe its something awful; after all, they have experienced it. And going from a slap to belt swings is not a good escalation.
Remember that almost all modern laws are to disencourage you from forming a solid family unit and to lure you into the devil's contract of doing what you want when you do want, but having to sell your soul to the system in exchange. Your children will need your protection from this awful world, so pick your battles. No-spanking as a rule is an ideal, but should never be fully implemented unless your kid is very well behaved by nature. And if you have a son, and this is his case, you may want to reevaluate his upbringing; male children cause all sorts of chaos in their perfect natural state.