https://voxday.net/2024/01/13/you-get-what-you-give/An aging woman laments how the post-Boomer youth
no longer respect the elderly: Once revered, age is now a sign of your irrelevance to modern life.
The word boomer â short for baby boomer, anyone who was born between 1946 and 1964 â has become an insult for older people who are out of touchâŠ
Iâll be honest â and in saying this Iâm aware I may receive some ageist insults myself in response â I donât think it was like this when I was young.
Elders were respected. Their words carried weight and gravitas.
They were more likely to be cared for within family homes when the time came, and within society, too.
Most importantly they were listened to, rather than being swiftly dismissed as irrelevant.
It wasnât like this when I was young either. But the Boomers are actively disrespected by the succeeding generation because they broke the tradition of respect for their elders. Now that they are the elders, they are harvesting the fruit of the seeds they planted in their youth. The first problem is that they never grew up. When I was a kid, I canât count how many times I was told by my friendsâ Boomer parents âdonât call me Mr. Johnson, Mr. Johnson is my father.â So many members of Generation X grew up accustomed to referring to their elders as their peers, by their first names.
The second problem is that they had less interest in their children and their childrenâs activities than they probably should have. Every member of Generation X can tell stories of what sounds like a near-feral childhood, of being kicked out of the house in the morning and only being allowed to go back inside for meals and sundown. This wasnât necessarily a bad thing, as it turns out, but when your parents require the television to remind them that you exist at 10 PM at night, itâs probably taking a good thing too far.
And while I was fortunate that my parents took an interest in my athletic activities, it wasnât uncommon for my dad to be the only father at a number of my soccer games and track meets. And my mother religiously attended the high school soccer games for all four of her boys, although she somehow managed to do so without ever quite grasping the offsides rule. But as a general rule, our parents were simply not very interested in anything we did, no matter what it was.
The third problem was a real eye-opener, however, when Generation X began having children and discovered that as little interest as the Boomers had in us, they had even less in their grandchildren. Many of us were close to our own grandparents, indeed, some of us were much closer to them than we were to our parents. So it was shocking to discover that our parents didnât even want to babysit their own grandchildren for a few hours a week, and were prone to vanishing across the country, or around the world, for months at a time on vacations and cruises rather than spend any substantial time with their grandkids. In contrast, I remember being sent to stay with my grandparents in Virginia for an entire month during the school year, and they were delighted to have me there. And I still remember that visit and look back on it as being absolutely idyllic.
So this disinterest was not only bewildering to us, but also prevented any close relationships from being developed between Boomer grandparents and Millennial or Z grandchildren.
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Fourth and finally, given the behavior demonstrated over the last 50 years, it shouldnât come as a surprise to any of the younger generations that many, perhaps even most Boomers, who collectively were the recipients of the greatest transfer of wealth in human history, are going to die leaving absolutely nothing at all to their children or to their grandchildren. Their homes and their second homes have already been sold or reverse-mortgaged to fund their five annual cruises; theyâve funded their retirements with debt that will never be repaid.
The Census Bureau data confirmed that most Baby Boomersâ wealth is tied up in their homes. In the past, the family home would be the most significant piece of an inheritance, but now, seniors can tap into their homeâs wealth before they pass with a reverse mortgage. The wealth and the home go back to the mortgage company rather than staying in the family. Many seniors would rather live in luxury during their final days than offer their kids financial assistance.
Generational Wealth Lost: Why Boomers Arenât Leaving Their Kids an Inheritance
So, it shouldnât be surprising that young people who neither know nor owe anything to an elderly population that has never shown any interest in them do not treat their elders with the respect that we used to back in the day. Because todayâs elders, quite frankly, never earned it.
A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just.â
Proverbs 13:22, The Holy Bible, KJV 
