I ponder this. I grew up in a full house and miss those times dearly. When a child turns 18, I cannot see much in the way of benefit by shipping them off to school and severing their support network. I don’t care about the debacherous experience of dorm life when they can learn more working their way through school. Nor does it seem right that they should give their income away to pay rent to a landlord. I would be happy with my adult children so long as they are pursuing their goals: If I can walk into my son or daughters room and have them speak passionately on their efforts in whatever subject they may have chosen. (Hopefully not rock star)
Even if they live at home while making good money, I don’t see the problem. Although the concept is foreign to me because the American dream has always been to buy a house and start your own nuclear family. Mexicans can easily have ten people in a small house and collectively afford it. Asians will have several generations in one household. But Americans will sign up for a lifetime of debt while simultaneously disconnecting themselves from their ancestors - and that’s fucked up.
My goal in life is to be an old man surrounded by grandchildren. I want a full house. And the more brothers and sisters my children have, the less likely they’ll be susceptible to niggerkike influences.
I don’t see a problem with it if they are a year or so into their career and want to save money for their own place. I make that clear to my kids they don’t have to rush to move out, but save money and keep working toward that goal.
If the kid is unsure about a career and is wandering aimlessly, but keeps a part/full time job then they can stay a little longer but will be paying rent.
As for the lazy kid that doesn’t do anything, none of my kids are like that but see friends that let their kids freeload. They are only hurting them in the long run. I’d make their living there a miserable experience until they got their shit in order.
If the kid is very helpful around the house and actually making their parents life easier, then that’s another pass.
SteppingRazor 0 points 3 months ago
I don’t see a problem with it if they are a year or so into their career and want to save money for their own place. I make that clear to my kids they don’t have to rush to move out, but save money and keep working toward that goal.
If the kid is unsure about a career and is wandering aimlessly, but keeps a part/full time job then they can stay a little longer but will be paying rent.
As for the lazy kid that doesn’t do anything, none of my kids are like that but see friends that let their kids freeload. They are only hurting them in the long run. I’d make their living there a miserable experience until they got their shit in order.
If the kid is very helpful around the house and actually making their parents life easier, then that’s another pass.