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A girl told me she was waiting for marriage before "giving her heart" if you know what I mean, then told me she had an abortion when she was younger. Shall I drop her?

submitted by alacrity167 to AskUpgoat 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:14:24 ago (+17/-1)     (AskUpgoat)

I know it's justifiable to feel like this. I was misled into thinking she was more conservative and pure because she said traditional-sounding things.

Today, for fun, we looked at the psychopathy checklist by O'Hare and did our tests. She said on the test that for her, the trait "poor parenting skill" would be "possibly present" because when she was younger she had an abortion that she really regrets. Ok. Wow. Fine. Now I can't the thought of that out of my head. The conception or the abortion. So I want to drop her. I want to be nice about it though. Help?

She had been looking at me carefully to examine whether I was a manipulator too, and said she had problems with narcissistic guys in the past. FUCK. I knew the stereotype and didn't see it coming. Am I just playing a part in a stereotypical story? She's not some reformed trad-girl. She's a damaged woman who will have trouble pair-bonding. This is what my mind is telling me.

The worst part is, when we finished the psychopathy checklist, and she scored lower than I, despite the fact that I never killed a human, I still joked that she had "beaten me" in the game to see who was a better person. Because I scored a higher score thanks to behaviours like getting into arguments in public about the mask, being racist, and having a flat affect and lack of sincerity. She kills a baby and agrees that she is a better person. Fucking hilarious.

Does she really expect me to just wait for marriage to fuck her, when she's already been knocked up and had an abortion. FFFFffuck that. The Puritans would have executed her ass. She wants to be traditional now. Fuck. Why am I so easily misled?


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[ - ] Lanfear 1 point 3 yearsJun 13, 2022 08:46:48 ago (+1/-0)

I would never trust a baby murdering cunt

[ - ] TrannyHunter 0 points 3 yearsJun 14, 2022 03:22:49 ago (+0/-0)

Drop her like a bad transmission. SHE KILLED A CHILD.

[ - ] 3Whuurs 21 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:42:42 ago (+21/-0)

The fact that all she can say is she regrets it, and doesn’t fester on and elaborate at length about her shame and the morality of it, or where she rightfully belongs in society after sucking out her own baby and chopping it up, shows she only cares in the context of the financial transaction she’s trying to make with you.

The fact she then analyses you for your potential to hurt her instead of first preemptively warning you about her chances of hurting you and your child, Is further proof she doesn’t give a shit about it, or you.

[ - ] albatrosv15 3 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 05:40:07 ago (+3/-0)

That. Is. Best. Reply.

[ - ] alacrity167 [op] 2 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 03:07:00 ago (+2/-0)

thank you

[ - ] 3Whuurs 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 23:16:44 ago (+1/-0)*

I do what I can..

[ - ] YamaMaya 13 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:24:53 ago (+13/-0)

Just dump her. Be honest and say "I can't be with you because I would worry you would kill our baby. You got together with me under false pretenses and now that I know the truth it's not going to work".

She may get angry with you or try to throw up hurtful shit in her attempt to soothe her bruised ego, just font feed into it. Just walk away or tell her to pack up her things and go. If she wont leave, then you leave. Shes probably got a job she has to go to, pack up her shit and change the locks while shes not there.

[ - ] alacrity167 [op] 4 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:31:43 ago (+4/-0)

just in the talking stage. thankfully won't be that hard.

[ - ] HeavyBrain 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 06:47:48 ago (+1/-0)

"I can't be with you because I would worry you would kill our baby.

Well she probably will kill another baby thats almost for sure, the question is will / would it have been his baby.

[ - ] Psychicrussiaspy 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 08:41:13 ago (+1/-0)

Get your guns out of the house now! She will use them against you. Every fucking time

[ - ] LostProperty 8 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 04:15:34 ago (+8/-0)

She is trying to play you for a sucker. If she was sexully attracted to yoy she would drg her bare ass across a field of hot coals to fuck you.

She whored it up for bad guys and now will make you wait because she likes you? That's not the way it works. She sized you up for being a bitch and that is how she plans to treat you.

Check out Darius on YouTube if you don't believe me.

[ - ] TheYiddler 5 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 06:48:16 ago (+5/-0)

Came here to say this. She is out for beta bux.

[ - ] HeavyBrain 4 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 06:49:52 ago (+4/-0)

If she is willing to do something for one guy, but won't do it with you, she has no respect or attraction for you.

Especially not if "you are the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, in good and bad and sickness and health"

[ - ] SparklingWiggle 3 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 13:42:02 ago (+3/-0)

You do not owe her anything. An explanation is not necessary. Just tell her you don't things will work between the two of you and move on.

You are easily misled because you are a White man with a good heart. Have situational awareness of women and do not put them on a pedestal.

[ - ] alacrity167 [op] 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 14:32:49 ago (+1/-0)

thank you

[ - ] ruck_feddit 3 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 11:06:45 ago (+3/-0)

There are other girls out there.

[ - ] ButtToucha9000 4 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:35:20 ago (+4/-0)

Fuck all that noise. She's damaged goods.

[ - ] Version6 3 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 09:05:31 ago (+3/-0)

Haunted vag. Do not proceed.

[ - ] SparklingWiggle 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 13:39:44 ago (+1/-0)

Ghost guns are bad, but ghost fetuses are okay in the leftist lunatic book.

[ - ] BlowjaySimpson 2 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 13:43:59 ago (+2/-0)

There are multiple red flags here, fren.

The abortion is probably the least concerning, to me.

[ - ] yesiknow 2 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 07:41:56 ago (+2/-0)

She doesn't have ptsd. You are an idiot for taking Hare's ridiculous
"test"
'.

Your problem isn't finding a virgin. It's finding someone not trapped in the jewish cult religion of psychology. You need an individual who can face up to life and what it offers, not someone who gets points for being fake psychologically damaged and weak and incapable of being supportive to another person, like a husband or children because trauma trauma trauma.

[ - ] 1Icemonkey 2 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 06:32:38 ago (+2/-0)

There once was a woman from the Azores

Who’s pussy was covered in sores

No dog in the street, would touch that green meat

Which hung in festoons from her drawers

Yes you should dump her. Run like hell.

[ - ] Bornoffireandice 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 20:40:41 ago (+1/-0)

If she is checking to see if you are manipulative, it is because she is manipulative. Odds are you have found a narcissist.

Leave her, but don't be an asshole about it. If she goes crazy about it, she is crazy and you made the right choice. If she doensn't, you have a chance later to get back together.

Those are my tboughts.

[ - ] Garrett 2 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:18:30 ago (+2/-0)

why cant you reform her?

[ - ] we_kill_creativity 2 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 11:11:07 ago (+2/-0)

why cant you reform her?

What's with this mindset I see all over "our" parts on the internet? Can you elaborate as to why you assume it's some single young man's apparent duty to reform a woman that MURDERED HER OWN CHILD BEFORE HE WAS EVER IN THE PICTURE???

[ - ] alacrity167 [op] 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 14:37:24 ago (+1/-0)

i like your logic in your comments

[ - ] Garrett 0 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 11:51:46 ago (+0/-0)

Well assuming she's White he can use her for her genes . Just make sure she's subservient

[ - ] we_kill_creativity 2 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 11:54:12 ago (+2/-0)

But why, on paper would that girl cause a young man looking for wife material to go "You know what? I bet she's the one!"...?

[ - ] Garrett 0 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 12:13:23 ago (+0/-0)

Nothing on paper. I agree she's not the best, my statement was just that she could still be useful

[ - ] 3Whuurs 0 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 23:55:46 ago (+0/-0)

Subservience implies relationship.
If her remaining use is her genes, it’s best she not stick around to ruin the kid after.

[ - ] alacrity167 [op] 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:23:42 ago (+1/-0)

Because she has c-PTSD and is on edge about me being callous and aggressive with her.

[ - ] RepublicanNerd 3 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 03:27:04 ago (+3/-0)

That should be a big enough red flag!

[ - ] maroni 2 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 08:37:42 ago (+2/-0)

c-PTSD

This is a difficult diagnosis for women to overcome. Unless she's committed to overcoming it you need to be done.

[ - ] maroni 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 08:43:25 ago (+1/-0)

the mask

I feel like you're concerned about having a personality disorder. If you'd like to have an anon talk PM me.

[ - ] maroni 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 08:39:40 ago (+1/-0)

psychopathy checklist

You need to screen women for borderline personality disorder and narcissism. Mostly the first. c-PTSD is often a precursor.

she had problems with narcissistic guys in the past

This is a possible red flag for borderline.

[ - ] Anus_Expander 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 07:41:24 ago (+1/-0)

Shun her as you would a jew.

[ - ] Her0n 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 06:22:47 ago (+1/-0)

This is what a scarcity mindset looks like.

If you feel this torn up about it then why continue with her? Move on, find someone deserving of your sacrifice.

[ - ] blackmage 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 03:06:41 ago (+1/-0)

Dump her. Some things never change. Being in the mental space Todo that is irredeemable.

[ - ] s23erdctfvyg 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:56:33 ago (+1/-0)

Dump her, keep moving. She'll be fine, she just needs to find a guy that's damaged goods.

[ - ] 3Whuurs 0 points 3.2 yearsApr 13, 2022 00:51:17 ago (+0/-0)

Ask her to tell you the Suck & Chop story.
$20 says the 1st thing (and maybe the only thing) she does is describe her oppression, deception and general victimhood before and after “said” Suck & Chop.

[ - ] binrobinrro 0 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 23:38:15 ago (+0/-0)

Of course you should drop her! What the hell is wrong with you?

[ - ] bosunmoon 0 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 17:21:13 ago (+0/-0)

Run.

[ - ] headfire 0 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 12:19:46 ago (+0/-0)

Yes,

She’s claiming to have emotional standards of commitment which allow her to murder her own child. Her “standards” are an excuse to herself to vitiate her decision to murder her own child.

When she says that’s hit to you, she isn’t talking to you. She’s talking to herself.

She’s crazy, and morally evil, and there is nothing she can tell herself which will change that. The reason she says it to you is to see if you’ll play along with her superficial self-image of a “principled woman” or some such shit.

She’s insane. Run.

[ - ] bobdole9 0 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 11:27:00 ago (+0/-0)

Be glad you know now than find out after the marriage paperwork is written.

Bail. If she want to be a bitch, grind her down as to why she had to abort. Severely doubt it was any "justified" reason.

[ - ] deleted -1 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:16:41 ago (+1/-2)

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[ - ] alacrity167 [op] 7 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:23:02 ago (+7/-0)

I don't know. It's a pride thing. Why do I have to wait for marriage, while she has literally fucked a dude and killed a baby without marriage. Killing a baby inside of marriage is one thing...

[ - ] Sleazy 2 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:27:46 ago (+2/-0)

was she raped?

[ - ] 3Whuurs 7 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:36:05 ago (+8/-1)

Of course not lmao.
If she was raped she’d probably have built her entire identity around that fact.
And even if she didn’t brag about it non stop, at the very least she’s now genetically incapable of admitting a fault like an abortion (even if from a totally unrelated relationship) without bringing up her victim card before, during & after.

[ - ] alacrity167 [op] 1 point 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 02:32:02 ago (+1/-0)

no

[ - ] deleted -1 points 3.2 yearsApr 12, 2022 13:28:21 ago (+0/-1)

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