We hear this from family and friends all the time about our boy. He isn't perfect, he cries and fusses like any other baby. I'm sure there are different "difficultly" levels of babies but all we do is watch his signs. Rubbing his eyes? He's sleepy. Trying to "eat" your knees or hands? He's hungry. All we do is observe his behavior and do what we think he's signaling to us.
Are that many people unable to read non-verbal ques?
If it's your first baby. That's just nature's way of giving you false confidence so you reproduce again. Most parents I know myself included all throught the first was soooooo easy and everyone's crazy about it being difficult. So you say well that was easy what's one more. And then the second one is a monster who never sleeps.
Haha I can believe that. If that's true, then my wife's cousin is in for absolute hell if he has any more. His first is two months behind mine and that baby constantly screams and fusses.
Babies are easy. They get more difficult as they get older and need more of your time.
Anyone can hold a baby and feed it a bottle or let it suck on a tit. Sitting your older kids down and explaining the fucked up world they are growing up in is the real struggle. Get them an enyrenching tool and a field manual on nonlinear warfare, and they will mostly stay out of trouble.
When my brothers and I were kids (5-10) back when we were watching John Wayne WW2 movies, we dug 'foxholes' in our backyard to play Army. My dad was not at all happy when he came home that night after dark and drove his pickup into our foxhole.
Lol sounds like my basic training Drill Sergeant falling into my foxhole when he thought I was being a lazy shitbag. He didn't realize I had finished a while ago.
He's growing up on a mostly self sufficient homestead.
We need larger livestock (cows, goats, and sheep) and then we will have everything covered.
He will know how to provide himself with ample food, shelter, and utilities. If he chooses to join the rat race clown world hes allowed to, but his parents are racially conscious, despise the jew, and will not let our children get fucked like we did.
"All we do is observe his behavior and do what we think he's signaling to us."
Yes, you'd be shocked how many people just ignore all social cues from babies and trivialize them.
Basically a baby's whole life is blunt communication to get you to do something. A lot of people just ignore that.
People like to personify babies in roundabout ways to deny them. "Oh he's a fussy water" = baby doesn't like the good I'm giving them, but I want them to eat it so it will continue.
Our daughter, granddaughters and great granddaughter were taught basic sign language as soon as we could, before they could speak so they could ask for food or water, and sometimes if they had to potty.
The wife's parents are narcissists, my mother is very mild compared to hers, but mine is still an issue. It's terrible to be around people like that, takes immense strength to overcome a situation like that.
My mother was asked how me and my brothers were never fussing or crying in public and how we were so well behaved. And my mothers "trick" was to talk to us, pay attention to us, have conversations. All it took was for my mother to actually care for us and we wouldn't be fussing. To many times i have seen parents of "difficult" children simply toss them a toy "here play, and leave me alone".
I have an intense baby. She needs held a lot, cat naps, cries if I leave her sight. Shes a day and night difference from my chill first baby, and she was still hard at first.
I have no idea how anyone gets a baby in those stupid baskets, I co slept both of mine.
Your family and friends are right. You got lucky. Each kid is different at different stages. I've got three so far with another one due before the end of the year. The first has been a consistent pain in the ass. The second started off easy but he was a far more difficult toddler than his older sister. The third was pretty easy. It really comes down to personality.
Its a bit more tricky when they gain mobility. If there are a few under five, its making sure none of them are doing anything that would cause bodily harm.
Our youngest sleeps, however he likes to fet up at 1am and decides he can't sleep in his bed anymore. That's a phase I am looking forward to passing.
kinda difficult to tell from just one paragraph. maybe you have an easy baby, maybe you are just a natural baby whisperer. i know some moms who are just really good at mothering and have very little trouble, and others who just don't have the skills and have a very difficult time.
well, since men can have babies now, and women can have a penis, it's difficult to know :-)
seriously though, moms are generally better than dads at the whole baby thing. contrary to current societal trends and beliefs, that is what women were made for.
Everyone, even my own mother, is so "surprised at how good a dad I am!"
They say it like their complimenting me, or that it's a good statement. I always make a weird face for a moment and then go back to tossing my boy in the air or making him into an airplane while we walk outside.
I get that I do more than some, but those some.do practically nothing anyway. What kind of father doesn't change diapers? What's the problem? I get covered in gross ass dust and grease from 1890 when I bring old steel mill cranes back to life, I can't keep my son's ass and such clean?
I go on walks in the woods even when it rains. The woods give enough cover, no one is around (mud? Yuck!), and my traps need checked regardless of the weather. Often the only birds you see are water fowl and in my area I see herons often. Now you know the epic that is my usernames origin.
[ - ] Cunt 1 point 3.0 yearsJun 19, 2022 22:34:37 ago (+1/-0)
I'm sure there are difficult babies but most parents don't communicate with their baby, or at least don't listen /watch for baby to "talk". You also need to know how to comfort your child if you can't figure out what is wrong or they can't have what they want.
Many people are unable to read baby body language or hear the difference in cries. I struggled with those cries that mean different things but sound similar but the real problem is how many people don't want to read non-verbal cues, not how many can't.
A lot of people also don't know connect that their baby started being "difficult" shortly after vaccinations. Including one I saw on Facebook who denied a link between her baby constantly screaming for days and vaccination despite it starting just after he got a shot.
[ - ] MaryXmas 1 point 3.0 yearsJun 19, 2022 21:45:48 ago (+1/-0)
People say shit. It is easier to complain about your kid than to be a good parent. My kid was 4 months and sleeping 6pm to 6am. They are just little people. They have basic needs and also need a very firm structure. I just treat my kid like a person. It takes a while but they pick up on things.
Is that like one of those babies they juggle with chainsaws and bowling balls on the walkway at Venice Beach amidst heaps of human waste and garbage, as someone picks your pocket?
I call B.S. this is what community is all about. sure we trust in ourselves, but we are also aware we don't know everything. engaging in conversation is what builds community, and helps spread the wisdom and culture.
Okay okay. Fine. It's good to get feedback. Where I'm coming from is, I have too damn much feedback as it is. But that's just me. Anyway I stand corrected. You're good to ask for opinions from like minded folk.
He sleeps when he wants and he only wakes up at night now if he has a real issue.
We co-sleep and we only used the basinet when he was first born. He cuddles with us most times when he sleeps. He will still sleep in his bed with no issues if he wants to sleep though.
He never cries when I take a toy away or turn off the music video he was watching. He loves Raffi, but never is upset when it's not "Raffi time" anymore.
He's easy, but I think it's because we keep his needs met and watch his body language.
They just mean that you don't have a baby with colic. A baby who does screeches and screams for any and no reason to the point of mom and dad wanting to blast their brains out. They're saying "be glad you don't have to deal with that, like I did". It's an expression of jealousy more than anything.
[ - ] Cunt 1 point 3.0 yearsJun 19, 2022 22:38:36 ago (+1/-0)
Colic is like SIDS: We don't know why your baby died, so we will say they died of Sudden [unexplained] Infant Death "Syndrome"." We don't know why your baby is crying, let's just call unexplained crying "Colic" and say your baby has that".
Also like SIDS, I haven't heard of any unvaccinated kid getting Colic.
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[ - ] Gowithit 10 points 3.0 yearsJun 19, 2022 10:50:08 ago (+10/-0)
the other two came almost two decades later and they are the cruelest children ever.
They conspire to never let me sleep. They take shifts.
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I first read that as 'They take shits.'
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[ - ] Epictetus 9 points 3.0 yearsJun 19, 2022 16:37:42 ago (+9/-0)
Babies are easy. They get more difficult as they get older and need more of your time.
Anyone can hold a baby and feed it a bottle or let it suck on a tit. Sitting your older kids down and explaining the fucked up world they are growing up in is the real struggle. Get them an enyrenching tool and a field manual on nonlinear warfare, and they will mostly stay out of trouble.
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We need larger livestock (cows, goats, and sheep) and then we will have everything covered.
He will know how to provide himself with ample food, shelter, and utilities. If he chooses to join the rat race clown world hes allowed to, but his parents are racially conscious, despise the jew, and will not let our children get fucked like we did.
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Yes, you'd be shocked how many people just ignore all social cues from babies and trivialize them.
Basically a baby's whole life is blunt communication to get you to do something. A lot of people just ignore that.
People like to personify babies in roundabout ways to deny them. "Oh he's a fussy water" = baby doesn't like the good I'm giving them, but I want them to eat it so it will continue.
It kinda goes along with "raised by narcissists"
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To many times i have seen parents of "difficult" children simply toss them a toy "here play, and leave me alone".
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[ - ] Her0n [op] 5 points 3.0 yearsJun 19, 2022 15:23:00 ago (+5/-0)
I do see the parent with the difficult child just tossing toys at the kid with that same mentality.
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I have no idea how anyone gets a baby in those stupid baskets, I co slept both of mine.
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Our youngest sleeps, however he likes to fet up at 1am and decides he can't sleep in his bed anymore. That's a phase I am looking forward to passing.
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[ + ] AugustineOfHippo2
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seriously though, moms are generally better than dads at the whole baby thing. contrary to current societal trends and beliefs, that is what women were made for.
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[ - ] Her0n [op] 0 points 3.0 yearsJun 20, 2022 08:49:33 ago (+0/-0)
They say it like their complimenting me, or that it's a good statement. I always make a weird face for a moment and then go back to tossing my boy in the air or making him into an airplane while we walk outside.
I get that I do more than some, but those some.do practically nothing anyway. What kind of father doesn't change diapers? What's the problem? I get covered in gross ass dust and grease from 1890 when I bring old steel mill cranes back to life, I can't keep my son's ass and such clean?
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[ - ] Her0n [op] 0 points 3.0 yearsJun 20, 2022 09:04:18 ago (+0/-0)
I go on walks in the woods even when it rains. The woods give enough cover, no one is around (mud? Yuck!), and my traps need checked regardless of the weather. Often the only birds you see are water fowl and in my area I see herons often. Now you know the epic that is my usernames origin.
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[ + ] Cunt
[ - ] Cunt 1 point 3.0 yearsJun 19, 2022 22:34:37 ago (+1/-0)
Many people are unable to read baby body language or hear the difference in cries. I struggled with those cries that mean different things but sound similar but the real problem is how many people don't want to read non-verbal cues, not how many can't.
A lot of people also don't know connect that their baby started being "difficult" shortly after vaccinations. Including one I saw on Facebook who denied a link between her baby constantly screaming for days and vaccination despite it starting just after he got a shot.
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[ - ] FreeinTX 1 point 3.0 yearsJun 19, 2022 10:22:46 ago (+2/-1)
"Rubbing his eyes" = sleepy
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[ - ] Her0n [op] 0 points 3.0 yearsJun 20, 2022 07:48:20 ago (+0/-0)
I'll be sure to not post what I feel like, when I feel like it in the future, for your sake.
I trust myself, I'm just annoyed by friends and family ignoring the efforts of my wife and myself.
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[ + ] Native
[ - ] Native 0 points 3.0 yearsJun 20, 2022 00:42:37 ago (+0/-0)
The books said “on average your baby will sleep 14-18mhrs” ours was AWAKE for 14-18 hours.
So if your baby got anywhere near the recommended sleep then you are lucky to have an easy baby.
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[ - ] Her0n [op] 0 points 3.0 yearsJun 20, 2022 07:52:59 ago (+0/-0)
We co-sleep and we only used the basinet when he was first born. He cuddles with us most times when he sleeps. He will still sleep in his bed with no issues if he wants to sleep though.
He never cries when I take a toy away or turn off the music video he was watching. He loves Raffi, but never is upset when it's not "Raffi time" anymore.
He's easy, but I think it's because we keep his needs met and watch his body language.
[ + ] Native
[ - ] Native 0 points 3.0 yearsJun 20, 2022 10:19:15 ago (+0/-0)
Congrats though on the kid it’s exciting and feels good having a new life with personality
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[ - ] Cunt 1 point 3.0 yearsJun 19, 2022 22:38:36 ago (+1/-0)
We don't know why your baby is crying, let's just call unexplained crying "Colic" and say your baby has that".
Also like SIDS, I haven't heard of any unvaccinated kid getting Colic.