I'm 40 my wife's 41, I had an affair a few years ago that I really got hung up on. My wife is the quintessential trade wife to a fault. She's very good looking, eastern European, non vaccinated. She Also hadn't gotten pregnant yet... Which I've been demanding for a few years now but at least were trying.
She's traditional to a fault. She acts like an old woman but looks like a 28 year old. I'm losing all my attraction to her after 5 years of marriage. I don't know what to do. I have just enough time to figure something else out, but I feel like I'm not even myself anymore I put on about 40 lbs I don't do shit but work and sleep, I fake everything else.
I care about her and don't want to leave her, and if I'm being honest because I feel so awful all the time I think I'm probably a little insecure which weighs into my decision.
Most days I'm good with what I chose, as long as we can have kids I think she's the best choice for a mate, with all the crazy shit in the world, but Now I'm second guessing myself and I can't figure out if its the affair, mid life crisis or just the growing pains of marriage with a boring woman.
Life is hard, marriage is hard. Its what we are meant to do as whites. Not play musical chairs with women.
Life is not about feeling fulfilled. Its not about finding your soulmate. All that is hollywood bullshit.
Lose some weight. Find a hobby that doesnt involve fucking someone besides your wife. Be a good man instead of a selfish kid. Easier said than done, I know.
47 got fucked over by a covert narrcisit 36 years old. Lied about almost everything and decided she doesn't want kids.
Now I'm 47 trying to have white kids!!! Gonna be tough wish me luck or send me out a prayer.
Luckily I'm in very good shape tall and have a little money so I have a chance but damn it ain't easy. My hope is a 30 something or early 40 realizes she wants white kids and she is late in the game and I find one.
Op needs to stop jerking off and start pumping every chance he can
The first thing that jumps out at me is you're both in your 40s and you're trying to start a family???? You can say better late than never all you want but man that's going to be a tall order no matter how you slice it. Aside from the concerns about her age there's also the realistic side of it: kids are a fuck tonne of work and you do not have the energy that you had when you were 20. And you even admit that you are overweight and have basically given up on life.
In short not even considering all of the other challenges you mention bringing a kid into the world does not sound like a good choice for you two.
The affair: Jordan Peterson talks about how the betrayal by someone you trust is a very hard thing to get over, we're talking deal-breaker hard. You don't say anything about how she's took it but I have to ask have you two even started the healing/forgiving process? If she's still hurt about it then you have a lot of work to do before thinking about having a family. And if she's not still hurt then that's even more concerning because it's makes me ask does she even have feelings for you?
And then finally the whole "look 28 but acts like an old women" is very concerning. Raising a family takes a mother and a father. If she's already checked out then you are setting yourself up for a nightmare.
Guys can have kids until they're too old to remember what pussy even is. If you are dead set on a family then you need to think about what an appropriate partner is. Otherwise if you decide that you do love her and want to stick it out DO NOT forget that it is not your job to fix her. A relationship takes 2 committed individuals who are prepared to make choices that are for the better of the relationship. If you are not better together than you are apart then why the fuck are you together?
You sound like a real piece of shit. Firstly you should break it off with her now, because you've fucked that relationship up beyond repair, and secondly on your next round don't be a piece of shit and cheat on your old lady. There's no coming back from that dude. She's going to hold on to that forever until the final straw falls on the camels back. Then she'll take you to the cleaners.
[ + ] PostWallHelena
[ - ] PostWallHelena 4 points 2.5 yearsDec 1, 2022 23:34:04 ago (+4/-0)
Life is hard, marriage is hard. Its what we are meant to do as whites. Not play musical chairs with women.
Life is not about feeling fulfilled. Its not about finding your soulmate. All that is hollywood bullshit.
Lose some weight. Find a hobby that doesnt involve fucking someone besides your wife. Be a good man instead of a selfish kid. Easier said than done, I know.
[ + ] texasblood
[ - ] texasblood 3 points 2.5 yearsDec 2, 2022 05:07:32 ago (+3/-0)
You are the problem, you just admitted it
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got married at 36
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Now I'm 47 trying to have white kids!!! Gonna be tough wish me luck or send me out a prayer.
Luckily I'm in very good shape tall and have a little money so I have a chance but damn it ain't easy. My hope is a 30 something or early 40 realizes she wants white kids and she is late in the game and I find one.
Op needs to stop jerking off and start pumping every chance he can
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QSo0duY7-9s
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In short not even considering all of the other challenges you mention bringing a kid into the world does not sound like a good choice for you two.
The affair: Jordan Peterson talks about how the betrayal by someone you trust is a very hard thing to get over, we're talking deal-breaker hard. You don't say anything about how she's took it but I have to ask have you two even started the healing/forgiving process? If she's still hurt about it then you have a lot of work to do before thinking about having a family. And if she's not still hurt then that's even more concerning because it's makes me ask does she even have feelings for you?
And then finally the whole "look 28 but acts like an old women" is very concerning. Raising a family takes a mother and a father. If she's already checked out then you are setting yourself up for a nightmare.
Guys can have kids until they're too old to remember what pussy even is. If you are dead set on a family then you need to think about what an appropriate partner is. Otherwise if you decide that you do love her and want to stick it out DO NOT forget that it is not your job to fix her. A relationship takes 2 committed individuals who are prepared to make choices that are for the better of the relationship. If you are not better together than you are apart then why the fuck are you together?
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