Naturally, as a Slate reader, he's pretty beta. Notice he called it "stay-at-home parent" instead of "mom". They can afford to be a one income family but he's resenting her choice. He goes on to say he figures she must be suffering from mental illness or postpartum depression to feel as she does. This guy is seriously kiked.
Here's his letter in full:
I am a new father to a beautiful 10-month-old girl. My wife’s company has a generous maternity leave policy, and she has been at home with our daughter since the birth and is scheduled to go back to work just after her first birthday in January. She recently told me she doesn’t want to go back to her job and would like to be a stay-at-home parent instead. I asked her why, and she said she enjoys being a mother too much to leave our daughter to go back to work when she doesn’t need to. This is such a departure from our plans before the baby was born. She has a good job that she enjoyed before going on leave, and had always been adamant that she wanted to continue working even after becoming a mom. We met when we worked at the same company many years ago, and one of the things I was most attracted to was her ambition and tenacity. It’s really surprising to hear that her career isn’t that important to her anymore.
Honestly, I don’t want her to quit her job. She earns about the same as I do, and while we could make ends meet on my income alone, it would impact our ability to save, and we’d need to give up one of our cars and cut way back on “extras” that make life more enjoyable. I also just … don’t want a stay-at-home wife. I really admired my wife for her work ethic, and I want her to set a good example for our daughter, too. Seeing her give up like this is really disappointing.
I gently asked her if she thought her change in attitude could be related to a possible mental health issue or postpartum depression, but she didn’t take that well. She says she only cares about our daughter and that’s where all her energy needs to go right now, and that if I love her, I will let her do this. I do love my wife, and I’m not interested in divorce, but I’m seeing a whole new side of her that I just don’t like or admire. What should I do?
We met when we worked at the same company many years ago, and one of the things I was most attracted to was her ambition and tenacity. It’s really surprising to hear that her career isn’t that important to her anymore.
Dear Fuckwad,
Your child IS HER CAREER. She knows it, yet you're too dumb to see. Get your head out of your ass and grow a (better) pair.
There could be some "new pressure" because they had two similar incomes and now he might be in the "oh shit, it's on me" and that is understandable but he needs to man up and not "puss out". Does the fuck have any clue how much day care costs?
I feel for this woman if this is real. I was in her shoes once. My husband was raised by his career oriented mom and grandma and this heavily influenced his thinking. He even told me the same thing about being initially attracted to me because I was so ambitious and supporting myself.
I'm trying to get mine to stop eating biscuits and chocolate and get some exercise.The problem is she's happy when she's eating and that means peace in the home and if I nag her she gets angry.It's rather unfair that I have to worry about her health as well as mine.
That reads like a woman wrote it. Trying to push the narrative that men don't want or like a stay at home MOM. "stay at home parent" is such kikery language.
Trying to push a narrative on women that men wouldn't like something after raising women not to care what men think doesn't sound like it will end up well.
Nah, that's a man who wrote it. Notice his primary concerns are money, ambition, and status symbols rather than her feelings and innate nature (redundant, I know).
He sounds disconnected from fatherhood and his own child in general. That's a guy who'd prefer a roommate, not a normal wife and child.
Well said. The expenses, wear and tear, zero family time are the sacrifices of two working parents, not to mention daycare workers who don't give a shit about your kid and gubberment communist school system. This is a jews wet dream. From experience, i cannot stress enough how important it is for home schooling and parents actually raising the kids they bring into the world. That, my frens is the BEST way to tell jews to fuck off.
Everyone mentions home schooling. It doesn’t always have to be 100% “home school”, and it doesn’t have to be you doing the home schooling.
Two 30 minute 1-1 piano classes is like $240 per month. And your kid will get excellent catered education and advanced hyper quick development.
Where as ie daycare, $2400 per month. That’s TEN separate topics your kid could be getting hyper accelerated learning in. TEN. FUCK DAYCARES!
Homeschooling isn’t just you taking them out of the public daycare system and teaching them your self. It’s making sure you are the one over seeing their education and actual learning and making sure it’s happening.
Already this beta has the hallmarks of being a deadbeat. Having children changes EVERYTHING. It's why the most important lesson that any parent can teach their kids is to be CAREFUL who they have kids with. Don't hop into bed with someone unless you're willing to see them again every day for the rest of your life.
This guy really is just worried that his wife not making money means that he will have to give up on adding to his XBOX gaming library.
He only mentioned his true goal once: the luxury that comes from two parents earning income. His wife understands that kids need constant parental attention, and wants to give that to her daughter. It has nothing to do with ambition, because if he understood ambition, he wouldn't even be against his wife making this choice at all. It has everything to do with this guy upset that he has to give up some temporary comforts to keep his family afloat. What a fucking great dad. I didn't even mention the risks associated with having to have SOMEONE ELSE watch the kids while both parents are working, and why that's a bad idea compared to parental supervision.
The bigger issue to solve is why this guy is afraid to save more money, better, on only one income source. He's afraid of deeper financial responsibility and maintenance. There's many books and methods available to better serve his ability to accommodate all and more of his family's needs using only one income source. He just doesn't want to adapt.
There's a lot of future problems to come, expressed in such a short message. Kicking this guy's ass wouldn't fix him. His wife telling him that she's leaving with the daughter, however, would. Time to learn the hard way, dumbass.
teach their kids is to be CAREFUL who they have kids with
Words are meaningless. They can say up and down yes and ok but when it(having kids) becomes a reality everything shifts. My husband agreed when he wanted to have a kid that I wouldn't work. After about a year he started saying things like "lazy, worthless, get a job" It came from the outside. He was being pressured to maintain a certain level of income to help his family and when that went away they got mad at him.
almost 15 years of fighting later when all the lunacy started popping off on the news about kids in schools and then covid is when he finally started to see it. I heard him bragging to someone that "oh yeah she blah blah blah" NOW I was fantastic. Fuck him and letting others trying to influence how I lived. He never saw it until everything hit the fan.
Leaving is never an option. Thats what the purpose of these "rage bait" articles is about. To incite discord. My method was always "your stuck, im stuck, deal with it". Leaving hahaha get fucked as if i would ever let him get off that easy and I don't advise anyone else to let their partner get off that easy either.
I can definitely relate. I’m so regretful that I put my oldest in child care while I worked full time. I can never get that time back. We were in a better financial position with my next child but my husband still made me feel worthless for not wanting to work more than part time. He also felt outside pressure and had friends with wives that were very successful. He felt resentful that we were missing out on having so much more extra income. But for what? To buy meaningless material junk. I decided to stop arguing about it and let the insults roll off me. Instead I put my all into being an actual house wife.
I started cooking a lot more. Putting actual effort into good meals. Keeping the house tidy and organized. Cleaning out drawers and getting rid of junk. I also made sure I took care of myself. I lost weight, got serious about eating right and exercising. No more wearing sweats all the time. I put real effort into looking good every day. No man wants to come home to a slovenly wife in pajamas. Most importantly, I put real work into my kids. Reading, toting around to activities, spending quality time with them. It shows. We constantly get compliments from others on how well behaved and well adjusted they are.
Guess what? I didn’t even have to fake how great this all felt. I find actual joy in tasks the old me would have sneered at. My attitude became more positive overall, and the stress of working and being a wife and mom melted away. My job is serving my family and supporting my husband as the breadwinner. It’s been years since my husband has made a peep about me working more. I do work extremely part time which is a good way for me to keep my skills and mental abilities sharp but it’s only when the kids are in school.
the best thing ever is an empty drawer. My daughter heard through the grapevine that according to all the old ladies at my moms church she is considered the best grandkid. I win. in their faces.
Sorry you went through the same arguing but I figured that to be the case based on your first comment on this thread. Im glad both of you came out on top of it all. High five!
"The Breadwinner" seems to prioritize profits over the proliferation of his White Christian offspring.
If he wasn't such a faggot, then he would encourage his wife could setup some type of secondary income by working from home. It wouldn't be an issue once the children are old enough to allow it.
Even just buying, and reselling shit on Ebay would be easily doable, and largely passive form of income once it is established.
[ - ] Peleg 1 point 1 weekMay 9, 2024 11:53:38 ago (+1/-0)
This was written by a filthy jew. It is completely made up out of kikes imaginations. It is the message that they want to push on to all White people. It is no different than the 9/11 story that they push, or the holohoax story that they made up, or Any of the garbage that they put out there to influence White people. Pure kikery.
Very few people want to work. Very few people find jobs are particularly rewarding they do it because they have to. These days to incomes are essential in some areas. Ideally our society wouldn't be that way but it is. It'd be great if all women could stay at home and raise the kids like they really should. I certainly wouldn't want some of the monsters raising kids that these child Care people are.
Nonetheless it's kind of funny that the woman presumes because it's what she really wants to do that she should be able to do it. I'm sure the dad really wants to go fishing every day and really wants to ride a motorcycle everyday and really wants to do other things too but the responsibility kicks in and you do what you have to do.
So I think the interesting response from him would be telling her well you got to spend a long time with the kids and I also want to spend time with my new child so I'll stop working for 6 months and you go back to work and just see what her response is.
I also want to spend time with my new child so I'll stop working for 6 months and you go back to work and just see what her response is.
funny story- My first was maaaaybe a month old and the husband didnt want to go to work. No reason just didnt feel like it. Awesome. Hey since you're here can you
1. 2. 3.
Do you know that fucker started getting ready for work? asshole.
Child care, when you’re paying the brunt of it so you can work 9-5, is wild ass expensive. Even 1-2% top earners would be cheque to cheque with like 3 kids.
Some truth there.Work is mostly awful because of the nature of it and because we are forced to interact with people we'd normally avoid.No offense, bro😄
[ + ] bobdole9
[ - ] bobdole9 12 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 09:27:31 ago (+12/-0)
Dear Fuckwad,
Your child IS HER CAREER. She knows it, yet you're too dumb to see. Get your head out of your ass and grow a (better) pair.
[ + ] Gowithit
[ - ] Gowithit 8 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 09:57:12 ago (+8/-0)
[ + ] RobertJHarsh
[ - ] RobertJHarsh 2 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 13:06:58 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] Gowithit
[ - ] Gowithit 2 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 13:16:38 ago (+2/-0)
Niggers dont think about money going out. All they see is the current money coming in.
[ + ] WNwoman
[ - ] WNwoman 9 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 09:32:58 ago (+9/-0)
[ + ] PotatoWhisperer2
[ - ] PotatoWhisperer2 5 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 11:39:33 ago (+5/-0)
[ + ] albatrosv15
[ - ] albatrosv15 2 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 12:10:36 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] PotatoWhisperer2
[ - ] PotatoWhisperer2 1 point 1 weekMay 9, 2024 12:11:48 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] paul_neri
[ - ] paul_neri 0 points 1 weekMay 10, 2024 06:03:28 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] paul_neri
[ - ] paul_neri 0 points 1 weekMay 10, 2024 06:04:11 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] Razzoriel
[ - ] Razzoriel 2 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 12:01:58 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] germ22
[ - ] germ22 9 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 09:23:33 ago (+10/-1)
[ + ] Gowithit
[ - ] Gowithit 8 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 10:09:09 ago (+8/-0)
[ + ] germ22
[ - ] germ22 6 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 10:49:51 ago (+6/-0)
[ + ] NeedleStack
[ - ] NeedleStack [op] 4 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 11:22:23 ago (+4/-0)
He sounds disconnected from fatherhood and his own child in general. That's a guy who'd prefer a roommate, not a normal wife and child.
[ + ] WNwoman
[ - ] WNwoman 2 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 13:16:31 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] Razzoriel
[ - ] Razzoriel 2 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 12:03:11 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] CoronaHoax
[ - ] CoronaHoax 4 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 11:52:45 ago (+4/-0)
They should do the math but income taxes are FUCKING expensive when you’re the one paying someone else’s hourly wages.
Better chances are she’d need to make 70k plus just to make more than they’re spending on daycare etc.
[ + ] Leveraction
[ - ] Leveraction 3 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 12:01:56 ago (+3/-0)
The expenses, wear and tear, zero family time are the sacrifices of two working parents, not to mention daycare workers who don't give a shit about your kid and gubberment communist school system. This is a jews wet dream. From experience, i cannot stress enough how important it is for home schooling and parents actually raising the kids they bring into the world. That, my frens is the BEST way to tell jews to fuck off.
[ + ] CoronaHoax
[ - ] CoronaHoax 3 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 12:36:30 ago (+3/-0)
Two 30 minute 1-1 piano classes is like $240 per month. And your kid will get excellent catered education and advanced hyper quick development.
Where as ie daycare, $2400 per month. That’s TEN separate topics your kid could be getting hyper accelerated learning in. TEN. FUCK DAYCARES!
Homeschooling isn’t just you taking them out of the public daycare system and teaching them your self. It’s making sure you are the one over seeing their education and actual learning and making sure it’s happening.
[ + ] JudyStroyer
[ - ] JudyStroyer 3 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 10:50:09 ago (+3/-0)
[ + ] AlexanderMorose13
[ - ] AlexanderMorose13 2 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 12:20:21 ago (+2/-0)*
This guy really is just worried that his wife not making money means that he will have to give up on adding to his XBOX gaming library.
He only mentioned his true goal once: the luxury that comes from two parents earning income. His wife understands that kids need constant parental attention, and wants to give that to her daughter. It has nothing to do with ambition, because if he understood ambition, he wouldn't even be against his wife making this choice at all. It has everything to do with this guy upset that he has to give up some temporary comforts to keep his family afloat. What a fucking great dad. I didn't even mention the risks associated with having to have SOMEONE ELSE watch the kids while both parents are working, and why that's a bad idea compared to parental supervision.
The bigger issue to solve is why this guy is afraid to save more money, better, on only one income source. He's afraid of deeper financial responsibility and maintenance. There's many books and methods available to better serve his ability to accommodate all and more of his family's needs using only one income source. He just doesn't want to adapt.
There's a lot of future problems to come, expressed in such a short message. Kicking this guy's ass wouldn't fix him. His wife telling him that she's leaving with the daughter, however, would. Time to learn the hard way, dumbass.
[ + ] Gowithit
[ - ] Gowithit 4 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 12:53:26 ago (+4/-0)
Words are meaningless. They can say up and down yes and ok but when it(having kids) becomes a reality everything shifts. My husband agreed when he wanted to have a kid that I wouldn't work. After about a year he started saying things like "lazy, worthless, get a job" It came from the outside. He was being pressured to maintain a certain level of income to help his family and when that went away they got mad at him.
almost 15 years of fighting later when all the lunacy started popping off on the news about kids in schools and then covid is when he finally started to see it. I heard him bragging to someone that "oh yeah she blah blah blah" NOW I was fantastic. Fuck him and letting others trying to influence how I lived. He never saw it until everything hit the fan.
Leaving is never an option. Thats what the purpose of these "rage bait" articles is about. To incite discord. My method was always "your stuck, im stuck, deal with it". Leaving hahaha get fucked as if i would ever let him get off that easy and I don't advise anyone else to let their partner get off that easy either.
[ + ] WNwoman
[ - ] WNwoman 3 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 13:29:52 ago (+3/-0)
I started cooking a lot more. Putting actual effort into good meals. Keeping the house tidy and organized. Cleaning out drawers and getting rid of junk. I also made sure I took care of myself. I lost weight, got serious about eating right and exercising. No more wearing sweats all the time. I put real effort into looking good every day. No man wants to come home to a slovenly wife in pajamas. Most importantly, I put real work into my kids. Reading, toting around to activities, spending quality time with them. It shows. We constantly get compliments from others on how well behaved and well adjusted they are.
Guess what? I didn’t even have to fake how great this all felt. I find actual joy in tasks the old me would have sneered at. My attitude became more positive overall, and the stress of working and being a wife and mom melted away. My job is serving my family and supporting my husband as the breadwinner. It’s been years since my husband has made a peep about me working more. I do work extremely part time which is a good way for me to keep my skills and mental abilities sharp but it’s only when the kids are in school.
[ + ] Gowithit
[ - ] Gowithit 3 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 17:27:47 ago (+3/-0)
Sorry you went through the same arguing but I figured that to be the case based on your first comment on this thread. Im glad both of you came out on top of it all. High five!
[ + ] KosherHiveKicker
[ - ] KosherHiveKicker 1 point 1 weekMay 9, 2024 13:52:11 ago (+1/-0)*
If he wasn't such a faggot, then he would encourage his wife could setup some type of secondary income by working from home. It wouldn't be an issue once the children are old enough to allow it.
Even just buying, and reselling shit on Ebay would be easily doable, and largely passive form of income once it is established.
[ + ] 2plus2equals5
[ - ] 2plus2equals5 1 point 1 weekMay 9, 2024 11:58:34 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] Peleg
[ - ] Peleg 1 point 1 weekMay 9, 2024 11:53:38 ago (+1/-0)
Pure kikery.
[ + ] NeedleStack
[ - ] NeedleStack [op] 1 point 1 weekMay 9, 2024 12:00:03 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] Leveraction
[ - ] Leveraction 1 point 1 weekMay 9, 2024 11:01:46 ago (+1/-0)
Either way, beta boy needs to be castrated
[ + ] RMGoetbbels
[ - ] RMGoetbbels 0 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 12:30:39 ago (+1/-1)
You've earned your spot in the workplace independent woman, see you there.
[ + ] UncleDoug
[ - ] UncleDoug 0 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 11:40:06 ago (+1/-1)
It's all well and good to want that, but is this a feasible option anymore?
As soon as women entered the workforce en masse it has been an irrecoverable downhill decline.
p.s. No way a man wrote that, just some dyke larp.
[ + ] Gowithit
[ - ] Gowithit 1 point 1 weekMay 9, 2024 11:49:24 ago (+1/-0)
Whats a "rightful" sahm?
you would be amazed at the number of men who turned into bitches.
[ + ] Crackinjokes
[ - ] Crackinjokes -1 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 12:57:01 ago (+0/-1)
Nonetheless it's kind of funny that the woman presumes because it's what she really wants to do that she should be able to do it. I'm sure the dad really wants to go fishing every day and really wants to ride a motorcycle everyday and really wants to do other things too but the responsibility kicks in and you do what you have to do.
So I think the interesting response from him would be telling her well you got to spend a long time with the kids and I also want to spend time with my new child so I'll stop working for 6 months and you go back to work and just see what her response is.
[ + ] Gowithit
[ - ] Gowithit 2 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 13:01:10 ago (+2/-0)
funny story- My first was maaaaybe a month old and the husband didnt want to go to work. No reason just didnt feel like it. Awesome. Hey since you're here can you
1.
2.
3.
Do you know that fucker started getting ready for work? asshole.
[ + ] CoronaHoax
[ - ] CoronaHoax 2 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 13:54:24 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] ReturnOfTheGoats
[ - ] ReturnOfTheGoats 1 point 1 weekMay 9, 2024 21:11:06 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] CoronaHoax
[ - ] CoronaHoax 2 points 1 weekMay 9, 2024 22:11:49 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] paul_neri
[ - ] paul_neri 0 points 1 weekMay 10, 2024 06:12:05 ago (+0/-0)