submitted by anon to askanon6 monthsOct 30, 2024 14:52:51 ago (+10/-0) (askanon)
I saw this girl that Ive seen around for the past couple of months at a restaurant today. She's got a Nissan for sell so I got her number. This woman wears no makeup, beautiful auburn hair(I have a thing for redheads) and great figure. She drives a 4 wheel drive pickup and is definitely a redneck girl. I like her. She does sales so she travels often. I only see her on occasion. Can you guys help and relationship retard out? What should I do to move forward with her? I will try what is suggested and post the outcome. Help a man out please?
Be over 6 feet tall. Be handsome. Be a millionaire and have >200k salary. Be ambitious. Be extroverted. Be into travelling. Be a flirt. Be hot af. Be dangerous.
Be bold. Be honest. Tell her you took her number because you like her and not because you want to buy her car.
Do not creep and do not linger. You must make your move boldly and when she says no you must brush it off and be ready to ask again later. That she will respect and be attracted to. 90% of the time a woman says no first. And then she watches to see how you handle it. If you brush it off and show that you're a man and it doesn't destroy you then she respects you wonders why you're not destroyed and becomes more interested in going out with you.
The one thing you absolutely must not do is pretend to be interested in her car to talk to her.
You have nothing to lose. She's not dating you now so she doesn't date you after you ask her a few times you've lost nothing. It's good practice to be bold. It's a numbers game anyway. There are plenty more women where that came from. Don't ever get hung up on one or you will not have the ability to not be phased when the majority of them say no. And that's the way the world works.
Don't be a pussy. Use this as a practice. That way it won't mean so much to you and you'll be able to pull it off better.
Buy a Nissan. This sounds creepy. She didn't give you her number, you kinda stalked her and got it because from a for sale sign on the back of her car?
Call and pretend you're interested in the car. Go and chat a bit, tell her yo're not sure about the car, and then go home and call her the next day and ask her out.
If you just call her and say you got her number off her car she'll probably no you.
i recommend you to do an online check up to her. she might be legit or she might have some baggage that you might regret later on if you pursue her. better be safe than sorry bro
btw, you didnt mention her age? if she is single and over 30 that could be a reg flag right there. best of lucks bro
Write her some poetry. Flowers and chocolates go a long way. For your first date, consider protesting or some other activist activity. This shows her you belive in things greater than yourself
[ - ] CHIRO 1 point 6 monthsOct 31, 2024 00:03:27 ago (+1/-0)
First, lower your expectations. She is human. Romanticism is great, but try to meld it with realism.
Second, ignore 99.9% of the advice you get about women from this forum.
Don't call her immediately. Call her Friday. Tell her your weekend is full, but that you'd like to see her sometime next week. Let her suggest a time.
Then, go do something fun. Don't make it extravagant on the first date. It's fine to tell her this, too. You can say, "I like to keep it simple when I first hang out with somebody, just in case she sucks." It's humorous. It communicates experience, sensibility, and standards.
People shit on dinner and a movie, but I still think it's a classic date. It's safe and effective. If you want to stand out a bit, ask her to do something non-standard. A lot of this depends on what type of girl you think she is. None of us know this information. One non-standard example would be to ask her to do some errand with you. I would only go this route if you are fairly sure she is equally or more interested in you than you are in her. But you could find other non-standard things. Go zip-lining if she seems like the adventurous type. Or just a coffee with a walk through a park. If she is an outdoors type, go on a hike. If she likes guns, ask her to a range.
What you do is a lot less important than just causing her to relax with you while you do it. There's more to that than someone can communicate in a Voat comment. Long story short, don't be 'outcome oriented.' Don't think about what's next. Don't think about how you should act to get from A to B. Stay in the moment and just enjoy it. Have fucking fun. Enjoy yourself. If she gives you cues that she wants it to continue, then continue it, but don't go in asking yourself: "Okay, what do I do to get laid?" If she is interested in things progressing, she'll let you know. The biggest sign is she won't want your date to end. She'll keep finding ways to keep you there. If you're getting those signals, then you can suggest going back to her place. If at any point you truly don't know where you're at, you can reverse psychology her. For example, you finish coffee and she asks, "What now?"
You say: "I'm not sure. Honestly, I didn't think we'd make it through that cup of coffee. I wasn't sure you were my type. I dunno. I need to shop for X (plan this out, know what shops there are near the cafe for example). You can come along with me, but if you do, don't think you're taking me home with you. I don't put out like that."
If you don't have the humor for that, don't try it.
I'd just be honest and own up to it.. 'hey, okay so i have to be honest, im not actually interested in your car, i got your number cause bla bla' You'll probably get rejected, but you'll probably get rejected anyways, unless she found you attractive. If she found you attractive there's not much you can do wrong, if she didn't there's not much you can do right, so don't waste your time 'strategising'.
Pretty accurate. When chicks dig me, I can do any retarded thing I want and she still follows me around. When they don't like me, I can't get a damn thing from em.
[ - ] snowpeach 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 20:24:31 ago (+1/-0)
Oh my! lol. Just call her and go to her to check that Nissan car, and talk to her. You can have some nice chocolate case with you, and give that to her for just talking and not buying her car. If she will like you, you're good.
Keep in mind false attribution to interact with people when they feel good and early on.
Ideally meet some time after lunch maybe around 2:30 PM.
A small hike and sunset picnic is great psychologically.
When people exercise together they take the state of arousal as attraction. And near sunset the scenery and people are in the best light.
You can have about the or four ideas that might be fun, and ask her too if she has some, she would like to do.
Basically have fun together.
Then you have to make it sexual, subtly. You could for example place your hand on the small of her back. Or accidentally brush against her nipple. Once she has an orgasm from you, she's yours. Not on the first date.
Remember Beauty and the Beast? All women's fantasy? It's all about someone you send dangerous that they think they can control - that is usually geared toward short term relationships.
Also if she's on the pill she'll be attracted to less physical men.
The other thing is negotiate, politely pursue her. And some women are kind then unkind to see your reaction - so when she says something reflect upon it. And notice what she says how she sits, when she isn't talking. Maybe read about body language.
But first call her today and set something up. Let her help you figure out out
The secret to snagging a woman is to not ask her out on a date a date is a reward that you give a woman who is already sleeping with you.
Tell her that you would like her to come hang out with you and your friends this keeps the event low-key and does not sound like a date it exponentially increases the chance that she will say yes.
You can always just take her to a movie theater pull out your cell phone and be like oh you guys were headed to the other movie theater I thought you were headed to this movie theater and suddenly you are on a date
Just ask her out to dinner and go from there. This is a straightforward approach that shows you have balls, and if she accepts it gives an indication that the opportunity to move forward exists. If that chick don't wanna know forget her. The boys are back in town! guitar riff The boys are back in toOooOoOOown. <--I actually loathe this song, it's like cuck-rock or something, I dunno. Good luck.
In short Be Calm, Be Confident (Not Arrogant), DON'T be the "Nice Guy", Chat it up with her, bring positive energy, make her smile & laugh, Don't look like your dog died, Bring Charisma, If she seems receptive be a little playful and flirty. Hold your masculine frame, and don't over do it!
The key to getting to a girl, is picking the lock, and the lock is her mind, make her laugh, be somewhat playful, and tease her in a gentle respectful way.
GOOD LUCK! Let us know how it went! P.S. If this goes well, you have to name your first child iSnark.... ;-)
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jesus, lots of schizo posts in here. calm your shit people.
OP ill give you some advice, but rest is on you.
For yourself (theres a reason I'm telling you this first) =-=-=-=- 1) Stop putting the pussy on a pedestal, your heart may be fluttering, but women don't respect men who put them up too high. So check yourself mentally before you talk to her. You can be a nice warm talkive and interactive guy, but don't go too head over heels--- you'll get yourself hurt unnecessarily. Just don't spend too much time in your headspace over analyzing each minutae. 2) Set realistic expectations, no matter how good someone or a relationship looks from the outside the reality may not meet the idea in your head. You might like the idea of her based on what you've concocted in your head, but until you know she's the real deal or not, just temper your expectations while getting to know her. Just sayin, there's more than one woman out there for 99.999999% of men--- if you get burned cause she wasn't what you thought she was in your head, you'll be sore about it--- don't be. 3) Make time for yourself, don't spend all day thinking about her-- I know this can be hard to do. But you have to keep a little bit back for yourself-- its very important to put yourself first at some point each day.
For her =-=-=-=- 1) Women like guys who are men of action, if you wait for two weeks then ask her out-- you'll put yourself off her radar forever. If you wanna go on a date with her, hit her up and ask her out within the next few days. 2) Date 1/hangout 1 - do something casual-- walk/coffee/icecream/etc-- stereotypical shit basically. The entire point of this date/hangout (with or without friends) is just to see if you guys vibe. Just talk to her, tell jokes, interact with her, ask her about herself-- and so on. If you guys vibe, you'll get a date 2--- if you don't get a date 2--- seriously man-- don't sweat it. Youll be sore/sour, but for pretty much all men dating is a numbers game-- you just gotta find the gal who has your number-- for some men it takes a lotta digging, don't take it too hard. 3) Date 2 - you can do something more 'interactive'/go out to eat, go do something together afterwards, etc. If she enjoys your company she wont care that much about what you guys do as long as you don't take her somewhere extremely shitty that she's not into. If you go somewhere and it seems she isn't cool with it, just bail with her somewhere else. 3) Date 3 - Honest to god, I actually recommend cooking lunch/dinner together on date 3. See how well 'the team' works together-- or some other related activity. She doesn't like that idea, you prolly don't wanna wife that shit anyway imo. I live in the woods. I put out some cheap ass easels from hobby lobby on some logs, then we threw water soluable paint filled water balloons at them from far away 'painting our canvases' then I took her to the kitchen and made her cook a bunch of medieval dishes from a cookbook. Stupid but it worked.
pro-tips =-=-=-=- 1) old fashioned shit does not work anymore. don't do chocolates/flowers/cutsie letters/etc-- unless you guys are already official. If you try this shit before you're actually officially dating-- you might as well have cut your own dick off. Not once have i seen this shit work from a cold-start in my lifetime... 2) if she spends more time looking at her phone on your initial hangout/date instead of interacting with you or pulls the whole totally disinterested/hates being there thing, just bail, you aint gonna save it. save yourself time and trouble and just politely excuse yourself and go. 3) don't text a lot. talk to her in person or call her if you have to. the only time you should text is to arrange to see each other. period. don't be her simp rag over texts and tell her 'goodnight beautiful, etc'-- shits cringe and you'll never be a 1st place/finish-line guy if you do that shit in her mind. Only call to talk to her. If you can't hold a convo over the phone with her, she aint the one for you anyway.
Has she ever smiled when she's made eye contact with you? Has she looked back at you twice ever? Has she ever made an attempt or excuse to touch you, even on the arm or something? If you talk to her in person, watch her body language like a hawk, did she mess with her hair, or maybe she put her hands behind her butt and just slightly stuck out her boobs when talking to you? Or was her body language guarded? Did she avoid standing within arms reach? Maybe she crossed her arms over her chest when speaking to you. Watch like a hawk and judge accordingly.
If things are mixed or you just don't know yet just chat her up some, make a Cragg Ferguson style over the top complement "LOOK AT YOU, YOU LOOK GORGEOUS" while playfully smiling. Play off her reaction. Watch some vids of him flirting with female celebs and you'll quickly understand how he has them eating out of the palm of his hand in moments. Make jokes that are double-entendres, or the time tested "???wait, are we still talking about _____????" while smiling mischievously so as to impishly imply that the conversation has turned to sex.
All the commenters are retards the whole lot of them. Make an appointment to see the car. Say im not sure call a few days later ask if the car is still available or show up and ask if car is still available friend of yours wants to see it. Show up with friend have him hem and haw and then you ask the girl out.
[ + ] Sector2
[ - ] Sector2 7 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 15:02:52 ago (+7/-0)
Now give her a call and invite her to do something casual with you. Choose something based on what you know about her likes or personality.
[ + ] anon
[ - ] anon 1514121 2 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 17:17:10 ago (+2/-0)
Be handsome.
Be a millionaire and have >200k salary.
Be ambitious.
Be extroverted.
Be into travelling.
Be a flirt.
Be hot af.
Be dangerous.
[ + ] Sector2
[ - ] Sector2 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 18:04:14 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] anon
[ - ] anon 1514121 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 22:30:48 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] velocityraptor
[ - ] velocityraptor 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 17:55:03 ago (+1/-0)
'nuff said
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 4103261 4 points 6 monthsOct 31, 2024 00:43:18 ago (+4/-0)
Do not creep and do not linger. You must make your move boldly and when she says no you must brush it off and be ready to ask again later. That she will respect and be attracted to. 90% of the time a woman says no first. And then she watches to see how you handle it. If you brush it off and show that you're a man and it doesn't destroy you then she respects you wonders why you're not destroyed and becomes more interested in going out with you.
The one thing you absolutely must not do is pretend to be interested in her car to talk to her.
You have nothing to lose. She's not dating you now so she doesn't date you after you ask her a few times you've lost nothing. It's good practice to be bold. It's a numbers game anyway. There are plenty more women where that came from. Don't ever get hung up on one or you will not have the ability to not be phased when the majority of them say no. And that's the way the world works.
Don't be a pussy. Use this as a practice. That way it won't mean so much to you and you'll be able to pull it off better.
[ + ] anon
[ - ] anon 1405849 0 points 6 monthsOct 31, 2024 11:56:39 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ]anon
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[ + ] anon
[ - ] anon 1405849 0 points 6 monthsOct 31, 2024 11:55:01 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] velocityraptor
[ - ] velocityraptor 4 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 17:58:28 ago (+4/-0)
[ + ] anon
[ - ] anon 3056905 0 points 6 monthsOct 31, 2024 12:27:45 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 3331782 4 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 16:03:00 ago (+4/-0)
If you just call her and say you got her number off her car she'll probably no you.
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 3248220 3 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 23:40:08 ago (+3/-0)
Show up with duct tape, rope, latex gloves, tarp and shovel.
Profess your love.
[ + ] Whatthefuck
[ - ] Whatthefuck 1 point 6 monthsOct 31, 2024 00:41:20 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] lord_nougat
[ - ] lord_nougat 1 point 6 monthsOct 31, 2024 03:12:26 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] anon
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[ + ]anon
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[ + ] Tallest_Skil
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[ + ] dirtywhiteboy
[ - ] dirtywhiteboy 3 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 15:47:02 ago (+4/-1)
kinda creepy ngl
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[ - ] Master_Foo 2 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 20:36:01 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 1371682 2 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 20:12:56 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ]anon
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[ + ] Ducktalesooo000ooo
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[ + ] dosvydanya_freedomz
[ - ] dosvydanya_freedomz 2 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 17:13:44 ago (+2/-0)
btw, you didnt mention her age? if she is single and over 30 that could be a reg flag right there. best of lucks bro
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 4355226 2 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 16:32:03 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] anon
[ - ] anon 1514121 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 17:19:16 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 2876541 1 point 6 monthsOct 31, 2024 02:02:29 ago (+1/-0)
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[ + ] CHIRO
[ - ] CHIRO 1 point 6 monthsOct 31, 2024 00:03:27 ago (+1/-0)
Second, ignore 99.9% of the advice you get about women from this forum.
Don't call her immediately. Call her Friday. Tell her your weekend is full, but that you'd like to see her sometime next week. Let her suggest a time.
Then, go do something fun. Don't make it extravagant on the first date. It's fine to tell her this, too. You can say, "I like to keep it simple when I first hang out with somebody, just in case she sucks." It's humorous. It communicates experience, sensibility, and standards.
People shit on dinner and a movie, but I still think it's a classic date. It's safe and effective. If you want to stand out a bit, ask her to do something non-standard. A lot of this depends on what type of girl you think she is. None of us know this information. One non-standard example would be to ask her to do some errand with you. I would only go this route if you are fairly sure she is equally or more interested in you than you are in her. But you could find other non-standard things. Go zip-lining if she seems like the adventurous type. Or just a coffee with a walk through a park. If she is an outdoors type, go on a hike. If she likes guns, ask her to a range.
What you do is a lot less important than just causing her to relax with you while you do it. There's more to that than someone can communicate in a Voat comment. Long story short, don't be 'outcome oriented.' Don't think about what's next. Don't think about how you should act to get from A to B. Stay in the moment and just enjoy it. Have fucking fun. Enjoy yourself. If she gives you cues that she wants it to continue, then continue it, but don't go in asking yourself: "Okay, what do I do to get laid?" If she is interested in things progressing, she'll let you know. The biggest sign is she won't want your date to end. She'll keep finding ways to keep you there. If you're getting those signals, then you can suggest going back to her place. If at any point you truly don't know where you're at, you can reverse psychology her. For example, you finish coffee and she asks, "What now?"
You say: "I'm not sure. Honestly, I didn't think we'd make it through that cup of coffee. I wasn't sure you were my type. I dunno. I need to shop for X (plan this out, know what shops there are near the cafe for example). You can come along with me, but if you do, don't think you're taking me home with you. I don't put out like that."
If you don't have the humor for that, don't try it.
You'll figure it out.
[ + ] puremadness
[ - ] puremadness 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 21:51:00 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 2503062 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 21:26:35 ago (+1/-0)
https://files.catbox.moe/iyhkca.jpeg
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 1172395 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 21:10:27 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] puremadness
[ - ] puremadness 0 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 21:53:13 ago (+0/-0)
When they don't like me, I can't get a damn thing from em.
[ + ] snowpeach
[ - ] snowpeach 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 20:24:31 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 4607468 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 18:35:59 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 2004335 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 15:45:39 ago (+1/-0)*
Ideally meet some time after lunch maybe around 2:30 PM.
A small hike and sunset picnic is great psychologically.
When people exercise together they take the state of arousal as attraction. And near sunset the scenery and people are in the best light.
You can have about the or four ideas that might be fun, and ask her too if she has some, she would like to do.
Basically have fun together.
Then you have to make it sexual, subtly. You could for example place your hand on the small of her back. Or accidentally brush against her nipple. Once she has an orgasm from you, she's yours. Not on the first date.
Remember Beauty and the Beast? All women's fantasy? It's all about someone you send dangerous that they think they can control - that is usually geared toward short term relationships.
Also if she's on the pill she'll be attracted to less physical men.
The other thing is negotiate, politely pursue her. And some women are kind then unkind to see your reaction - so when she says something reflect upon it. And notice what she says how she sits, when she isn't talking. Maybe read about body language.
But first call her today and set something up. Let her help you figure out out
[ + ] anon
[ - ] anon 1848751 3 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 16:17:53 ago (+3/-0)
lol, on the first date? Yeah, OP do not do this.
[ + ] anon
[ - ] anon 3056905 1 point 6 monthsOct 31, 2024 12:35:57 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] dirtywhiteboy
[ - ] dirtywhiteboy 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 16:26:45 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 1547640 1 point 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 15:32:33 ago (+1/-0)
The secret to snagging a woman is to not ask her out on a date a date is a reward that you give a woman who is already sleeping with you.
Tell her that you would like her to come hang out with you and your friends this keeps the event low-key and does not sound like a date it exponentially increases the chance that she will say yes.
You can always just take her to a movie theater pull out your cell phone and be like oh you guys were headed to the other movie theater I thought you were headed to this movie theater and suddenly you are on a date
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 3056905 0 points 6 monthsOct 31, 2024 12:25:56 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] Anus_Expander
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[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 3828679 0 points 6 monthsOct 31, 2024 00:32:40 ago (+0/-0)
Pretty much once you act like “she’s the one” you just completely tanked your chances either way.
So you might as well just go for it either way.
[ + ]anon
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[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 2628998 0 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 20:13:48 ago (+0/-0)
- https://www.youtube.com/@Kyle_Froonjian
- https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Q6hNq8hN8Kg (This is a good video)
In short Be Calm, Be Confident (Not Arrogant), DON'T be the "Nice Guy", Chat it up with her, bring positive energy, make her smile & laugh, Don't look like your dog died, Bring Charisma, If she seems receptive be a little playful and flirty. Hold your masculine frame, and don't over do it!
The key to getting to a girl, is picking the lock, and the lock is her mind, make her laugh, be somewhat playful, and tease her in a gentle respectful way.
GOOD LUCK! Let us know how it went! P.S. If this goes well, you have to name your first child iSnark.... ;-)
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 7818494 0 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 18:52:11 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] Xantha
[ - ] Xantha 0 points 6 monthsOct 30, 2024 18:08:56 ago (+0/-0)
OP ill give you some advice, but rest is on you.
For yourself (theres a reason I'm telling you this first)
=-=-=-=-
1) Stop putting the pussy on a pedestal, your heart may be fluttering, but women don't respect men who put them up too high. So check yourself mentally before you talk to her. You can be a nice warm talkive and interactive guy, but don't go too head over heels--- you'll get yourself hurt unnecessarily. Just don't spend too much time in your headspace over analyzing each minutae.
2) Set realistic expectations, no matter how good someone or a relationship looks from the outside the reality may not meet the idea in your head. You might like the idea of her based on what you've concocted in your head, but until you know she's the real deal or not, just temper your expectations while getting to know her. Just sayin, there's more than one woman out there for 99.999999% of men--- if you get burned cause she wasn't what you thought she was in your head, you'll be sore about it--- don't be.
3) Make time for yourself, don't spend all day thinking about her-- I know this can be hard to do. But you have to keep a little bit back for yourself-- its very important to put yourself first at some point each day.
For her
=-=-=-=-
1) Women like guys who are men of action, if you wait for two weeks then ask her out-- you'll put yourself off her radar forever. If you wanna go on a date with her, hit her up and ask her out within the next few days.
2) Date 1/hangout 1 - do something casual-- walk/coffee/icecream/etc-- stereotypical shit basically. The entire point of this date/hangout (with or without friends) is just to see if you guys vibe. Just talk to her, tell jokes, interact with her, ask her about herself-- and so on. If you guys vibe, you'll get a date 2--- if you don't get a date 2--- seriously man-- don't sweat it. Youll be sore/sour, but for pretty much all men dating is a numbers game-- you just gotta find the gal who has your number-- for some men it takes a lotta digging, don't take it too hard.
3) Date 2 - you can do something more 'interactive'/go out to eat, go do something together afterwards, etc. If she enjoys your company she wont care that much about what you guys do as long as you don't take her somewhere extremely shitty that she's not into. If you go somewhere and it seems she isn't cool with it, just bail with her somewhere else.
3) Date 3 - Honest to god, I actually recommend cooking lunch/dinner together on date 3. See how well 'the team' works together-- or some other related activity. She doesn't like that idea, you prolly don't wanna wife that shit anyway imo. I live in the woods. I put out some cheap ass easels from hobby lobby on some logs, then we threw water soluable paint filled water balloons at them from far away 'painting our canvases' then I took her to the kitchen and made her cook a bunch of medieval dishes from a cookbook. Stupid but it worked.
pro-tips
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1) old fashioned shit does not work anymore. don't do chocolates/flowers/cutsie letters/etc-- unless you guys are already official. If you try this shit before you're actually officially dating-- you might as well have cut your own dick off. Not once have i seen this shit work from a cold-start in my lifetime...
2) if she spends more time looking at her phone on your initial hangout/date instead of interacting with you or pulls the whole totally disinterested/hates being there thing, just bail, you aint gonna save it. save yourself time and trouble and just politely excuse yourself and go.
3) don't text a lot. talk to her in person or call her if you have to. the only time you should text is to arrange to see each other. period. don't be her simp rag over texts and tell her 'goodnight beautiful, etc'-- shits cringe and you'll never be a 1st place/finish-line guy if you do that shit in her mind. Only call to talk to her. If you can't hold a convo over the phone with her, she aint the one for you anyway.
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If things are mixed or you just don't know yet just chat her up some, make a Cragg Ferguson style over the top complement "LOOK AT YOU, YOU LOOK GORGEOUS" while playfully smiling. Play off her reaction. Watch some vids of him flirting with female celebs and you'll quickly understand how he has them eating out of the palm of his hand in moments. Make jokes that are double-entendres, or the time tested "???wait, are we still talking about _____????" while smiling mischievously so as to impishly imply that the conversation has turned to sex.
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