The importance of family. (whatever)
submitted by Merlynn to whatever 4 months ago
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Much ado has been made about marriage and "power structures" and "oppression". So I feel I need to clear the air about just what marriage is and what it's supposed to do.
What marriage is supposed to be is a family. You are binding yourself to another person as family. They are your family now. You are now as closely related to this person as you are to your blood relatives. And you create this bond in order to make legitimate children who are also your declared family. They are not de facto orphans with no one to back them up. They have a family and family must take care of their own because no one else will. Without a family,you are at the mercy of strangers and that's just going to be a roll of the dice and the odds are against you. Mostly it comes up apathy but sometimes it comes up violence and very rarely do people help you.
This is also why men are uninterested in older women. They can't breed so they can't start a family so they're basically incapable of performing the one function they need to. It's also why women lose interest in a neutered man. He can still get it up and even enjoy sex,but he can't have kids and therefore is useless as a husband. We all know this on an instinctive level but we need to drag it up into the light of reason sometimes to remember why we do what we do.
And feminists demand to know why men should lead,even though every women,on some level,knows damn well why. Because when things go south,the Shatner's hit the fan,and someone has to put their ass on the line,we all know it's not going to be the woman who does it. It doesn't make sense for a woman to do it. She's much better able to take care of babies than a man is,so she gets protected. No,it's a man's job to go out and possibly get killed to keep his family safe. And since any dicision the family makes could potentially put him in the line of fire,he gets to make the call. His ass,his call. Simple as.
And when feminists demand to know why women must follow their fathers and then their husbands,it's because they are to be protected. Even from men. A father knows better than a woman the tricks a bad man can use to seduce her. And since a father loves his daughter,he will make every effort to find her a good husband. Someone who will take care of her. And,likewise,a husband should love his wife and want to see to her being taken care of. Basically,she goes from the protection of one man who cares about her to another. She is protected.
And the feminist will continue with "why does the man have the freedom to work but not women" and then gassing on about how women didn't have the right to own property. This is all lies,of course,since women have owned property,run businesses,and even ruled nations for centuries. As far back as recorded history goes. But for some reason,women believe feminists that women couldn't do that. Acting like "you should have a man to take care of you" was some iron clad law as opposed to a suggestion. But the reason the man worked and the woman stayed with the kids is that it was the most sensible way to do things. Men are bigger and stronger than women. In cave man days,that meant the man went hunting and risked life and limb to get meat and the woman gathered food from nearby plants where it was safe and watched over the children,who are the most important to protect. In the middle ages,the man would labor on the farm while the wife took care of the easier chores and watched over the kids. In modern times,it means the man goes out and sells his time and labor to an uncaring corporation to earn the money to buy what his family needs while the wife handles light chores and watches soap operas while the kids are at school. And that's why men work and women were staying at home.
And there's a lot of the feminist talking points about how marriage is "oppression" laid bare. I hope this helps you.