We are typical parents, taking our kids out for swimming lessons, camp, school, etc. Everywhere we go, it is always the women who are taking the positions of leadership, the men are just along for the ride. My work put out some informational post on "leadership for girls" event, and when I asked if there would be the equivalent for my son, there was no response. Look through the school programs, and all I see is leadership programs for girls, and nothing for the boys. Drove by the public high school the other day, and saw the boys playing soccer, wearing PINK jerseys. Last winter we signed our girls up for figure skating lessons, and on the other rinks there were more girl hockey players than boys, the place was run by women, and even the zambonis were driven by women. I don't have anything against women. I love women. But it seems our boys are being pushed aside and taught to be gay cucks. No wonder there is such a trend for white chicks to go after the masculine foreign invaders, when all the white men at home are useless basement dwellers waiting to told what to do.
Our empathy is our biggest weakness and the narrcisist that don't have it among the white population are to short sigthed and selfish and fuckkng stupid to see or care what's happening
Empathy is never a weakness. Victim appeasement is. Never validate the ones who cry victim because it is filling a cup with no bottom. Always forgive, never forget. Eventually, those who cry the hardest will find their whims fall on deaf ears, and they won't be able to survive alone.
Aside from leading by example, how exactly do you propose that we 'teach leadership' to our sons? Most "leadership for girls" programs do not really teach anything, they just provide leadership opportunities. It is not about what you do; it is about who you know.
In my professional life I lead people. I used to be hands on with building tech and I was quite good at it. Several decades ago I became a 'manager' and and then a senior manager etc. These days all I do is 'lead' and part of my leadership duties is to mentor and train others in how to lead. ...and this is incredibly difficult. 'Leadership' is a largely intangible skill and it takes a long time to teach. Most actual formal training for leaders and managers has little to do with 'leadership' and has to do with process and compliance. Sure, your managers need training on how to comply to the ADA and how to keep on the proper side of legal while interviewing and hiring... but at the end of the day this trains you how to not get sued and does nothing to train you how to lead.
The actual 'leadership training' I do is based in mentoring... I put folks into basic leadership situations and then guide them through the process. Over time as their skills develop I give them bigger and bigger challenges and more and more autonomy. I can do this because I have top-down authority to organize teams, put people in leadership roles and then guide them through the learning.
This is not something I can do with my son in the same way. I have no ability to provide leadership opportunities, only to mentor him when he himself has already gotten the opportunity to lead. I cannot for instance make him the team captain in sports etc. He has to earn those opportunities himself. I try my best to teach these things to my son but without the hands-on learning experiences it is very difficult.
In short, when I see someone declare "Parents need to teach boys how to lead" I assume that the speaker has very little leadership experience themselves and don't know what they are saying. ...but please I want to be wrong. Share your wisdom on how to actually accomplish this.
setting aside your disdainful attitude, I think you (and others in this thread) are correct about leading by example, and by mentoring. The biggest problem I see is that boys are not expected to step up, and many times even put in situations where they are expected to stand down in favor of a girl and/or a non-white individual. Boys nowadays are actually taught to be followers. I can't tell you how many families I know that have a "failure to launch" situation. The teen/adult kids aren't even expected to have a job or help around the house.
Coach your kids to strive for more. When they are on a team, coach them to at least TRY to be team captain. They may not get it, but at least they didn't sit on the bench and accept whatever crumbs are offered. When they have a job, coach them to apply for higher level positions. They may not get them, but at least they tried. Your kids need to fail sometimes. Sounds awful, but when they fail, you help them get back up and keep trying.
You are teaching the behavior of striving and reaching for more, rather than the behavior of passive acceptance. Teach the behavior of self-reliance, rather than helplessness.
One thing I really like to do is have sayings ready for certain situations.
"Dont just stand there, do something" "you made the mess, you clean it up" "you have hands and feet, you go get it" "use your brain and figure it out" etc.
Also, rewards are for when you do something deserving of a reward. they need to earn that allowance.
Give them tasks and chores, and sometimes give them something bigger than they can handle, but be there to guide and coach. Most importantly, DON'T DO IT FOR THEM. you are a coach, on the side, keep your hands out of it :)
No... It is tribalism in practice. 'Hooking up your buddies' or 'doing a favor for a friend' are examples of exerting influence to advance the goals of your circle, often to the detriment of the collective, but at the very least irrespective of the goals of the collective.
We have never been a truly 'Meritocracy' There has always been this tribalism under the surface because humans are tribal in nature. In the modern world merit, skill, motivation all are what allows you to grab opportunity when it knocks. Tribalism is what makes opportunity knock in the first place.
No it really is not an example of collectivism. In any collective there will be a smaller circle of people who look out for each other. Collectivism is "we succeed together and we fail together" and while there are some official collective systems like communism, in practice our tribal nature always shines through. Tribalism is "I hook up my friends to help them succeed and in return they hook me up to help me succeed"
Examples of tribalism can be either individualistic or collectivist. There are several papers written regarding the evolutionary psychology and evolutionary strategy of employing each practice. Ingratiating yourself to the person who purports claim of sovereignty is identifiable the singular most collectivist attitude that can be expressed. In the modern world, it can manifest itself in cronyism for instance. Hooking your friends up for positions of power not based on merit but based on fealty, surrounding oneself with sycophants to secure power with patsies.
Tribalism is "I hook up my friends to help them succeed and in return, they hook me up to help me succeed"
Again tribalism is simply an in-group preference, individualism as an evolutionary strategy is different to collectivism in tribalism. Collectivist tribal attitudes are Semitic and Mongoloid, and individualistic tribal attitudes are Germanic and Celtic.
Tribalism is the marque, and attitudes in that marque are the model.
im a 220 pound former professional boxer, and i look the part. boys and girls stare at me with wonderous eyes because i am such a great example of masculine white supremacy.
Video games and porn have hacked the boys inmate desire to build and procreate which are the key motivators behind almost everything they do. Keep your boys out of those and you are half way there
I don't have anything against women. I love women. But it seems our boys are being pushed aside and taught to be gay cucks
I agree. I would add, teach your girls not to be followers. You think these woke girls are really pushing the agenda. They aren’t. They are desparate for acceptance.
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[ + ] Doglegwarrior
[ - ] Doglegwarrior 6 points 2.9 yearsAug 3, 2022 11:32:33 ago (+7/-1)
We have problems
[ + ] AlexanderMorose13
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[ + ] Doglegwarrior
[ - ] Doglegwarrior 5 points 2.9 yearsAug 3, 2022 11:31:38 ago (+5/-0)
It is full on white genocide watch idiocracy it is in there subtly
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[ + ] spasswerk
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[ + ] Glowbright
[ - ] Glowbright 2 points 2.9 yearsAug 3, 2022 11:41:54 ago (+2/-0)
In my professional life I lead people. I used to be hands on with building tech and I was quite good at it. Several decades ago I became a 'manager' and and then a senior manager etc. These days all I do is 'lead' and part of my leadership duties is to mentor and train others in how to lead. ...and this is incredibly difficult. 'Leadership' is a largely intangible skill and it takes a long time to teach. Most actual formal training for leaders and managers has little to do with 'leadership' and has to do with process and compliance. Sure, your managers need training on how to comply to the ADA and how to keep on the proper side of legal while interviewing and hiring... but at the end of the day this trains you how to not get sued and does nothing to train you how to lead.
The actual 'leadership training' I do is based in mentoring... I put folks into basic leadership situations and then guide them through the process. Over time as their skills develop I give them bigger and bigger challenges and more and more autonomy. I can do this because I have top-down authority to organize teams, put people in leadership roles and then guide them through the learning.
This is not something I can do with my son in the same way. I have no ability to provide leadership opportunities, only to mentor him when he himself has already gotten the opportunity to lead. I cannot for instance make him the team captain in sports etc. He has to earn those opportunities himself. I try my best to teach these things to my son but without the hands-on learning experiences it is very difficult.
In short, when I see someone declare "Parents need to teach boys how to lead" I assume that the speaker has very little leadership experience themselves and don't know what they are saying. ...but please I want to be wrong. Share your wisdom on how to actually accomplish this.
[ + ] AugustineOfHippo2
[ - ] AugustineOfHippo2 [op] 1 point 2.9 yearsAug 3, 2022 12:05:13 ago (+1/-0)
Coach your kids to strive for more. When they are on a team, coach them to at least TRY to be team captain. They may not get it, but at least they didn't sit on the bench and accept whatever crumbs are offered. When they have a job, coach them to apply for higher level positions. They may not get them, but at least they tried. Your kids need to fail sometimes. Sounds awful, but when they fail, you help them get back up and keep trying.
You are teaching the behavior of striving and reaching for more, rather than the behavior of passive acceptance. Teach the behavior of self-reliance, rather than helplessness.
One thing I really like to do is have sayings ready for certain situations.
"Dont just stand there, do something"
"you made the mess, you clean it up"
"you have hands and feet, you go get it"
"use your brain and figure it out"
etc.
Also, rewards are for when you do something deserving of a reward. they need to earn that allowance.
Give them tasks and chores, and sometimes give them something bigger than they can handle, but be there to guide and coach. Most importantly, DON'T DO IT FOR THEM. you are a coach, on the side, keep your hands out of it :)
[ + ] UncleDoug
[ - ] UncleDoug 0 points 2.9 yearsAug 3, 2022 12:17:17 ago (+0/-0)
Collectivism in practice, it was better when western individualism espoused the best ideals in a meritocratic system.
[ + ] Glowbright
[ - ] Glowbright 0 points 2.9 yearsAug 3, 2022 14:55:23 ago (+0/-0)
We have never been a truly 'Meritocracy' There has always been this tribalism under the surface because humans are tribal in nature. In the modern world merit, skill, motivation all are what allows you to grab opportunity when it knocks. Tribalism is what makes opportunity knock in the first place.
[ + ] UncleDoug
[ - ] UncleDoug 1 point 2.9 yearsAug 3, 2022 15:00:09 ago (+1/-0)*
are examples of collectivism.
Being chosen on merit is a quality found within individualism as an evolutionary strategy. One that is unique to White Western European people only.
Less and less so with every passing year since multi-culturalism.
[ + ] Glowbright
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[ + ] UncleDoug
[ - ] UncleDoug 0 points 2.9 yearsAug 3, 2022 15:25:32 ago (+0/-0)
It literally is.
Examples of tribalism can be either individualistic or collectivist. There are several papers written regarding the evolutionary psychology and evolutionary strategy of employing each practice. Ingratiating yourself to the person who purports claim of sovereignty is identifiable the singular most collectivist attitude that can be expressed.
In the modern world, it can manifest itself in cronyism for instance. Hooking your friends up for positions of power not based on merit but based on fealty, surrounding oneself with sycophants to secure power with patsies.
Again tribalism is simply an in-group preference, individualism as an evolutionary strategy is different to collectivism in tribalism. Collectivist tribal attitudes are Semitic and Mongoloid, and individualistic tribal attitudes are Germanic and Celtic.
Tribalism is the marque, and attitudes in that marque are the model.
[ + ] Artificial_Intelligentile
[ - ] Artificial_Intelligentile 2 points 2.9 yearsAug 3, 2022 11:19:58 ago (+2/-0)
im a 220 pound former professional boxer, and i look the part. boys and girls stare at me with wonderous eyes because i am such a great example of masculine white supremacy.
you are better then the others, look the part.
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[ + ] PostWallHelena
[ - ] PostWallHelena 1 point 2.9 yearsAug 3, 2022 13:31:29 ago (+1/-0)
I agree. I would add, teach your girls not to be followers. You think these woke girls are really pushing the agenda. They aren’t. They are desparate for acceptance.
[ + ] WhiteGoat
[ - ] WhiteGoat 1 point 2.9 yearsAug 3, 2022 10:53:26 ago (+1/-0)
Let me stop you there
[ + ] AugustineOfHippo2
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