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Modern day Christianity, as in Church based, no research, go to Church and do no thinking for yourself at all is downright suicidal. I had been talking to multiple pastors, and the topic of my parents came up. They told me I am obliged to honor my parents (Exodus 20:12), and that ignoring them, or not talking to them or keeping my distance is verboten. Instead I should open up and extend the invitation to them to maintain a relationship with them. They never explained why this is, or what benefit to myself i get from having such pieces of shit in my life, but Jesus forgave, so I have to forgive too.

The thing is I can understand the concept of what they were trying to say, however the entire problem lies in the delineation of the word "brother". If we assume a brother to be a brother in Christ, than per the book of Mathew I owe nothing to my family. It even says to treat them like heathens if they don't respond (MATTHEW 18:17). And Lord knows my family has tried very hard to talk some sense to my mom and dad, to absolutely no avail.

However, the book of Mathew also says to forgive indefinitely against brothers who sin. This is very confusing, because really, what category do i put my parents in? My mom literally brags she used to do witchcraft and dived into the occult, so not exactly a woman you want to mess with. And since they can't be classified as believers in Christ, it seems the modern day Church is applying broad strokes to heathens, which also goes against the Biblical scriptures of Matthew 6:5-8.

The second problem is the tolerance of sin as an extension of forgiveness. My mom is a trash bucket, and talking about her s if she's not, is in my eyes the sin of lying. The woman got great enjoyment threatening us as kids with knives, guns, trying to feed us hard drugs ( definitely hardened us for sure at the time) and insinuating she would kill us one day. She even tried to bait family members to try and kill each other by pitting them against each other.

Per the church again, I should live and let live, and just pretend all those horrible memories never happened. But they did, so how is me pretending to forget they happened going to help a relationship that clearly is dead? I don't even harbor hatred towards my parents, i just dont want them in my life. But the church is trying desperately to force me to keep them there