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Sounds like you need to move YOUR family out of state or even out of country!

You should have done figured that out and dealt with it before you got married. That WAS your biblical option, nigga

You need to look into some married red pill reading. Your wife doesn’t see you as the prize and clearly isn’t worried about losing you.

I wasn’t quite this bad but I was too enmeshed with my parents when i first married. It helped that we moved away but I still talked to them almost daily, shared way too much info, and treated their advice as gospel. The difference was that when my husband started setting some boundaries I shaped up fast because I didn’t want to lose him. He was high value and I was smart enough to know what I had.

Are you in shape? Do you provide enough? Do you keep yourself well groomed? Do you get attention from other women?

Instead of AskUpgoat, I strongly recommend you ask a good divorce lawyer for advice instead.

Then, tell your wife how you feel and how things will need to change for you to stay. If the team is you and her, you MUST leave and at which time you should be prepared to do so immediately.

MOVE! Get away as fast as fucking humanly possible.

There is no fix. You leave, and she will continue to act as if she never left her parents' home.

BiL just did this with his wife...similar behaviors too.

Edit: you already made sure to have seperate bank accounts, right?

Not Biblical, but I'd start with a month of no contact with the family, as an experiment. If there is refusal, "So you can't survive without contact for a month?" and that can begin some soul-searching as to why she is so dependent.

You didn't know any of this before you married?.

You can't change people, this judging by what you've said has always been there, did you expect it to change?.

I can't believe that her personality is any different now to how it was then. I'm not knocking you but the signs must have always been there, why did you go through with getting married?.

Stone the cunt. Lock the mother in your basement and torture her for as long as she can breathe.

Sounds like you married a 9y/o, are you muhammed? Is the snakbar open?

Do you have any evidence that your mother-in-law has been engaging in any witchcraft or soothe-saying? Perhaps reading horoscopes in the newspaper?

Sounds like you gotta Sean Connery a bitch.

Not saying I condone it but it works.

Go West, boomer. Start over. I've done it many times.

What Does the Bible Say About Leave And Cleave?
https://www.openbible.info/topics/leave_and_cleave

Biblically? Ya know, the bible is all over the map on such issues. I suppose you could have any agenda and find a bible passage that backs you up on your position. The bible was written by hundreds of people from many different time periods. Its not one perspective. Anyway they were middle easterners and polygamists. Their culture was not our culture. I feel there are better sources for family advice than the bible.

I will admit that as a woman, I really like to know what other people, especially other women, think before I make a decision. Often I have already made up my mind but I still like to “bounce stuff off” other people. I like to talk about the decision with someone else before I make it. Other women are often willing to discuss such decisions at length, and reassure me about my fears. I do not let other people make up my mind for me. Is it possible that that is whats going on with the MIL? If so perhaps you can be the “other woman” —i.e. you can listen to her more often about issues she goes to the MIL with, and give her more of the feedback she is seeking without having to go to the mom.

If this is not the case, perhaps your wife has dependent personality disorder? Maybe the MIL also has a personality disorder that feeds off your wife’s dependency. I would buy some books — maybe workbooks on DPD — and encourage your wife to read or use them with you. I would also seek out a support group or a therapist that can guide your wife through this problem. Using a therapist can backfire of course if the therapist sees you as the problem, but I think a lot of competent therapists will recognize that your wife’s inability to make independent decisions is the problem, if your description of her is accurate. I think that a therapist is going to be able to make the case to your wife more effectively than you that her excessive dependence on the mom is harming her. BTW I don’t see why a religious councillor cant be useful, if you are bent on a religious solution.

How old is your wife? How old is your wifes mom? Do you have kids?

If your wife does have dpd, I think important to remember that its unlikely that she chose to be this way at all. The MIL is giving her something that she is not getting from you. You will need to take over some of those jobs if you want to get your wife back from her mom.

If she's not accepting you as the new dominate 'authority' in her life, you don't really have a marriage. Perhaps you could 'fix her' if you had training and expertise in psychological manipulation techniques?

Falling for an incompatible person to marry is one of the worst mistakes we can make. Hopefully you have no kids and can be objective about your position and vulnerabilities.

Have you considered stoning her?

How much are you following God ?
Have a home church ?
Read the bible separate or together ?
Pray together ?
You say she always goes to her mom would she accept that God's word is always right even when we are unsure of things ?

Get her to pump out a couple of kids asap.
Then take the newborn and sibling and flee.

As in leave the country.