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- paints a picture of a woman in need of rescue by a good man
- comes to Upgoat, a hive of maladjusted neurodivergent autists, seeking advice

This post registers 8/10 on my glownigger scale.

Hilarious how the simps are upgoating it. Your jerkoff fantasies will be exciting tonight.

I have an extended family member. Widowed and hard-working. She's a wonderful woman. All of her children are grown. Through her work, she met an amazing hard-working man. His kids too were all grown up. Because they have both struggled, they have a renowned sense of faith that is unshakable. They had a small but beautiful wedding.

They are both looking to retire soon and I couldn't be happier for them.

Chances are the right man for you is out there working his ass off. Let's hope you catch him while he's working. That's exactly how my wife found me.

get a friend with benefits. Im available

You want a woman with a penis? Maybe you can find one at the local synagogue, but inviting a man you want into your current relationship will effect your kids. Everyone involved here would be more happy if you asked your kids to choose a partner for you. Seriously, talk to your kids about this and tell them you really miss their dad, but that you also need to have an adult around. Kids are great at keeping their eyes open for the kind of guy you are looking for. It’s probably a guy that hasn’t had the financial stability to ever consider having kids himself and instead enjoys walking his dog at the park - and might be tired of being alone. Could be living alone in a house that used to have been looking over his dying mother. Or another guy that also has grown kids and lost his wife to cancer.

There’s plenty out there, you may have to make the first move though. Start doing things that you like and you may meet someone that likes to do the same.

Don’t listen to the incels here, having older kids isn’t always a deal breaker.

If you find him, try not to drive him to drug use.

Try taking a public class on something that interests you, or will at least increase your skill set at the same time you are looking.

- Firearms training class at an establish shooting public range -or- Concealed Carry
- CPR / First Aid training, or Emergency Medical Technician
- A reputable Self-Defense (Ju jitsu, MMA, etc.) class at a large facility
- A local charity that does large public works, or events

It could be anything really that interest you, would likely draw in someone like minded, and hopefully looking for exactly what you are.

Just remember it also has to be something the type of person you are interested in meeting might be into. Do NOT go to some estrogen-loaded knitting class hoping to meet anything other than a Soy_faggot.

Post a pathetic story on a cheezDick web-site to generate quality meet-up's.

Consider others in a similar situation. If they have kids already, the desire to add may not be that high. A "Brady Bunch" scenario might work for everyone.

If you're looking for the right one and not just soneone, be as straightforward as possible. My wife found me that way.

The playing field is very different at 40 than it was at 20. Anyone you meet who is single will have some sort of baggage.
My only advice is to pray. Many here will scoff at the idea, but it's always worked for me.
I hope things work out for you. You seem decent and deserving of something good.

George Floyd hasn’t even been dead for five years. Nice try faggot. 2/10 bait

Over 40 is gen x territory and as a male that is 46 i can tell you why. We been burned far to many times by investments within people.

If no one in your social circle has made an attempt to be with you, then you are the reason! No offense i hope, but something they know about you, or your kids is keeping them away.

What do men in your area do on their days off? Determine that grasshopper and you will find the peen that is lean and that will always be your dean. You know?

Do scouts, swimming, soccer and volenteer? Volenteers tend to be committed family folks.

Good luck! Don't give up hope, there is some wonderful man out there for you.

Your best bet is an older divorced/widower guy who also has kids.

Any sane, self respecting man will not walk, he will run from your insane, woman raised, out of control, retarded teens from another "man".

That alone disqualifies you. Then there is you age.

Get your kids out of the house, then you might qualify with another widower.

What kind of shape are you in? Are you overweight? Do you work out? Do you keep yourself well groomed and dressed? No pajamas in public?

In my experience if you are in shape and keep yourself up, you will get attention from men everywhere. It’s up to you to discriminate and filter to find a man worthwhile.

Local car shows might be a good place to find men. 50% will be divorced. Even better if you don't know anything about cars, just like to look at em.

Match.com might be a good bet. Yeah, jews but you might have to play the game.

You could also follow your faith. I think the convent is a good place.

Oh my gosh. Have you seen the competition? Shit shows. You should be golden.

Alright! Uncle! I won't date until the kids are out of the house!

It's hilarious anyone would think I'm a glow. Just a normal person seeing what to do next. What is revealed in this thread that a fed could possibly use? Anyway, thanks GOATS for your advice. This is actually been all quite helpful.

I have diarrhea

What exactly is 'like-minded' to you? What is ideal to you? Where is you mind, out of curiosity. It might give us a sense of where to find these men.

What exactly is the next mile with you? Raising your children?

I just fuck the friends of my friends only problem being by now I ve fucked them all and I need new friends with friends

You need casual repeated social contexts.

A place where you can come across the same people repeatedly in a casual environment - where people are free to talk to you and you are visibly easily approachable. And there is high visibility from the type of people you would like to meet. Even better if it is a purpose based location.

An example might be an online club, book club, massively multi player online game. Use a mix of in person and virtual. Also use a paid service, and acquaintances.

Virtual is useful because it is quickly accessible, in all weather at all times.

User microeconomics techniques - a mix of sources to quickly interact with many people.

Also be in locations where many people can see and approach you repeatedly.

May the Lord comfort you as you go through this challenging time.

ChatGPT:

How to Date Over 40 and Have High Success with Men

If a woman over 40 wants to date successfully and attract high-quality men, here’s what she should focus on:


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1. Embrace Confidence & Authenticity

Men are drawn to women who are comfortable in their own skin.

Be direct about what you want in a relationship—whether it’s serious or casual.

Insecurity and playing games are unnecessary at this stage of life.



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2. Prioritize a Positive Attitude

Men notice when a woman is enjoyable to be around. If you bring warmth, humor, and good energy, you’ll stand out.

If you’re bitter about dating, men, or past relationships, that negativity will show.

Focus on what you want now, not on past disappointments.



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3. Be Open to Different Types of Men

Many women have a long list of “must-haves” that might be limiting their options.

Instead of focusing on height, income, or superficial traits, prioritize character, values, and compatibility.

A man who makes you laugh and feel respected is worth more than one who just “checks the boxes.”



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4. Take Care of Yourself (Physically & Emotionally)

Men are visual, and while looks aren’t everything, they do matter. Put effort into your health, style, and presentation.

Confidence in your appearance is more attractive than perfection.

Emotionally, make sure you’re truly ready for a relationship. If you still have baggage from past relationships, work through it first.



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5. Show Interest in Him

Men want to feel appreciated and valued just as much as women do.

Ask about his hobbies, passions, and opinions—not just surface-level small talk.

If he feels like you genuinely care about who he is (not just what he provides), he’ll be drawn to you.



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6. Let Him Lead… But Not Too Much

Many men over 40 are used to taking charge, but they also appreciate a woman who knows what she wants.

Allow him to plan dates and pursue you, but also show that you’re interested by reciprocating.

If a man has to do all the work, he might assume you’re not that interested.



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7. Be Selective—But Not Unrealistic

Have standards, but don’t expect perfection. Men over 40 have their own history, just like you do.

Look for someone whose flaws you can live with, not someone without flaws.

If you meet a great guy but reject him for minor things, you might be overlooking someone amazing.



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8. Don’t Overanalyze Everything

A lot of dating struggles come from women reading too much into small details.

If he hasn’t texted you back in an hour, it doesn’t mean he’s lost interest. Men don’t communicate the same way women do.

If he says he had a great time, he probably did—there’s no secret meaning to decode.



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9. Avoid Common Red Flags in Yourself

Don’t talk endlessly about your ex or past relationships—it’s a turnoff.

Don’t go on a date expecting the man to prove himself to you. It should be mutual.

Don’t treat every date as an interview—relax and have fun!



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10. Be Playful & Feminine

Men are drawn to women who are fun, a little flirty, and lighthearted.

You don’t have to be overly seductive, but a little playful teasing or humor makes you more attractive.

Show appreciation for his efforts—if he plans a nice date, acknowledge it!



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Final Thought:

The best dating advice is simple: Be someone you would want to date.
If you bring confidence, kindness, and fun into the experience, high-quality men will notice—and they’ll want to pursue you.

Age, children, and great career all significantly reduce your pool of suitable men. That's before knowing how you look and behave and how unrealistically picky you are for your status. Even saying "partner" is a red flag.

It's very possible what you're looking for is not possible.

There is no such thing as a 40 year old single woman who hasn't spent her whole lifetime making mistakes for me to fix.

It's a better deal for me to spend the same money to be some 20-something's sugar daddy.

That's what you are competing against.

Coffee shops.
Saturday or Sunday mornings are best, relaxed atmosphere, easy to exchange pleasantries.
It's almost a guarantee that any singles there did not have a date the night before.

You have a lot of (bad) options. You could cruise churches, bars, dating apps, or grocery stores; they all suck. I am about to turn 40. If I were to think about my wife (22 years together) dying and where I would look (if I looked); the only place I would look for women would be in places where women were in women roles (because I am a patriarchal asshole). I would look to the check-out girl, the coffee barista, the waitress at my local diner. There is a chance I would dabble in the dating apps; but honestly I would probably just O.D. myself if I lost her. I guess what I am saying is; you need to go to where you think the "type" of guy you want would be. Do you want a bar fly? A sportsball faggot? A religious type? etc. etc. I wish you luck.

No, that's why women as old and financially secure as yourself get involved with gigolo's.

Hit the gym and turn into a Milf. Men will appear and surely one them will stay once the children are old enough and moved out.

Try to do hobby groups like hiking via the meetup app. Theres also ski groups that do trips. These are just examples, but what you want is to be in a group setting for an extended period of time where you can mingle. If not a husband you might make a new girlfriend who will lead to a husband.

It’s beyond selfish to think a man should help raise your kids to another man whilst offering him nothing in return. No family of his own, no youth, all of your life milestones achieved with other guys.
It’s like being invited to party after everyone went home, just to clean up at your expense. Except the party got fucked by 20+ yrs worth of dick.

Shows the farcical nature of love. If your partner can move on after your death, why bother having them in the first place?
I would advise you to be content with your current situation, and find meaning in something else. There's not enough time to fulfill many of one's dreams even while single, let alone married. Granted you don't lack the spark of passion and fascination, that is.

Watch porn with him, its cool.