How to Date Over 40 and Have High Success with Men
If a woman over 40 wants to date successfully and attract high-quality men, here’s what she should focus on:
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1. Embrace Confidence & Authenticity
Men are drawn to women who are comfortable in their own skin.
Be direct about what you want in a relationship—whether it’s serious or casual.
Insecurity and playing games are unnecessary at this stage of life.
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2. Prioritize a Positive Attitude
Men notice when a woman is enjoyable to be around. If you bring warmth, humor, and good energy, you’ll stand out.
If you’re bitter about dating, men, or past relationships, that negativity will show.
Focus on what you want now, not on past disappointments.
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3. Be Open to Different Types of Men
Many women have a long list of “must-haves” that might be limiting their options.
Instead of focusing on height, income, or superficial traits, prioritize character, values, and compatibility.
A man who makes you laugh and feel respected is worth more than one who just “checks the boxes.”
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4. Take Care of Yourself (Physically & Emotionally)
Men are visual, and while looks aren’t everything, they do matter. Put effort into your health, style, and presentation.
Confidence in your appearance is more attractive than perfection.
Emotionally, make sure you’re truly ready for a relationship. If you still have baggage from past relationships, work through it first.
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5. Show Interest in Him
Men want to feel appreciated and valued just as much as women do.
Ask about his hobbies, passions, and opinions—not just surface-level small talk.
If he feels like you genuinely care about who he is (not just what he provides), he’ll be drawn to you.
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6. Let Him Lead… But Not Too Much
Many men over 40 are used to taking charge, but they also appreciate a woman who knows what she wants.
Allow him to plan dates and pursue you, but also show that you’re interested by reciprocating.
If a man has to do all the work, he might assume you’re not that interested.
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7. Be Selective—But Not Unrealistic
Have standards, but don’t expect perfection. Men over 40 have their own history, just like you do.
Look for someone whose flaws you can live with, not someone without flaws.
If you meet a great guy but reject him for minor things, you might be overlooking someone amazing.
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8. Don’t Overanalyze Everything
A lot of dating struggles come from women reading too much into small details.
If he hasn’t texted you back in an hour, it doesn’t mean he’s lost interest. Men don’t communicate the same way women do.
If he says he had a great time, he probably did—there’s no secret meaning to decode.
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9. Avoid Common Red Flags in Yourself
Don’t talk endlessly about your ex or past relationships—it’s a turnoff.
Don’t go on a date expecting the man to prove himself to you. It should be mutual.
Don’t treat every date as an interview—relax and have fun!
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10. Be Playful & Feminine
Men are drawn to women who are fun, a little flirty, and lighthearted.
You don’t have to be overly seductive, but a little playful teasing or humor makes you more attractive.
Show appreciation for his efforts—if he plans a nice date, acknowledge it!
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Final Thought:
The best dating advice is simple: Be someone you would want to date.
If you bring confidence, kindness, and fun into the experience, high-quality men will notice—and they’ll want to pursue you.
So is this the morally high and right path you are advocating? Or should people take corners because they can and should. They deserve that money after all! Sounds like you are advocating for a low trust society of 1 vs all. Be the biggest parasite is what I am hearing.
The issue is that you are blaming the world. You will always find something to blame except yourself. Just look at your username. "BannedEverywhere" If you got banned from 109 countries, don't you think you might be acting like a Jew?
You get to travel with a woman through all the stages of womanhood. You get her perky teen years, peak hips, pregnant big tits, milf + experience, then onto whatever comes next. I am not currently into cougar or granny stuff but I got another few years.
That will take a chunk out of the mortgage. Hoping to get it down to 20k or less by the end of the year. Might be able to swing it. Ps, pay off your debt.
MaryXmas 2 points 3 months ago
Local car shows might be a good place to find men. 50% will be divorced. Even better if you don't know anything about cars, just like to look at em.
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MaryXmas 4 points 3 months ago
Volunteer groups are probably pretty good and you would find lots of new people. Same thing with volunteers at the local arboretum or similar.
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MaryXmas 0 points 3 months ago
ChatGPT:
How to Date Over 40 and Have High Success with Men
If a woman over 40 wants to date successfully and attract high-quality men, here’s what she should focus on:
---
1. Embrace Confidence & Authenticity
Men are drawn to women who are comfortable in their own skin.
Be direct about what you want in a relationship—whether it’s serious or casual.
Insecurity and playing games are unnecessary at this stage of life.
---
2. Prioritize a Positive Attitude
Men notice when a woman is enjoyable to be around. If you bring warmth, humor, and good energy, you’ll stand out.
If you’re bitter about dating, men, or past relationships, that negativity will show.
Focus on what you want now, not on past disappointments.
---
3. Be Open to Different Types of Men
Many women have a long list of “must-haves” that might be limiting their options.
Instead of focusing on height, income, or superficial traits, prioritize character, values, and compatibility.
A man who makes you laugh and feel respected is worth more than one who just “checks the boxes.”
---
4. Take Care of Yourself (Physically & Emotionally)
Men are visual, and while looks aren’t everything, they do matter. Put effort into your health, style, and presentation.
Confidence in your appearance is more attractive than perfection.
Emotionally, make sure you’re truly ready for a relationship. If you still have baggage from past relationships, work through it first.
---
5. Show Interest in Him
Men want to feel appreciated and valued just as much as women do.
Ask about his hobbies, passions, and opinions—not just surface-level small talk.
If he feels like you genuinely care about who he is (not just what he provides), he’ll be drawn to you.
---
6. Let Him Lead… But Not Too Much
Many men over 40 are used to taking charge, but they also appreciate a woman who knows what she wants.
Allow him to plan dates and pursue you, but also show that you’re interested by reciprocating.
If a man has to do all the work, he might assume you’re not that interested.
---
7. Be Selective—But Not Unrealistic
Have standards, but don’t expect perfection. Men over 40 have their own history, just like you do.
Look for someone whose flaws you can live with, not someone without flaws.
If you meet a great guy but reject him for minor things, you might be overlooking someone amazing.
---
8. Don’t Overanalyze Everything
A lot of dating struggles come from women reading too much into small details.
If he hasn’t texted you back in an hour, it doesn’t mean he’s lost interest. Men don’t communicate the same way women do.
If he says he had a great time, he probably did—there’s no secret meaning to decode.
---
9. Avoid Common Red Flags in Yourself
Don’t talk endlessly about your ex or past relationships—it’s a turnoff.
Don’t go on a date expecting the man to prove himself to you. It should be mutual.
Don’t treat every date as an interview—relax and have fun!
---
10. Be Playful & Feminine
Men are drawn to women who are fun, a little flirty, and lighthearted.
You don’t have to be overly seductive, but a little playful teasing or humor makes you more attractive.
Show appreciation for his efforts—if he plans a nice date, acknowledge it!
---
Final Thought:
The best dating advice is simple: Be someone you would want to date.
If you bring confidence, kindness, and fun into the experience, high-quality men will notice—and they’ll want to pursue you.
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MaryXmas 0 points 3 months ago
This is not surprising.
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MaryXmas 0 points 3 months ago
It is your choice. Always has been.
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MaryXmas 2 points 3 months ago
Match.com might be a good bet. Yeah, jews but you might have to play the game.
You could also follow your faith. I think the convent is a good place.
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MaryXmas 2 points 3 months ago
She should hang out at the gas station and start talking to the working men that roll up? 🤣
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MaryXmas 1 point 3 months ago
No, not at all. Again, that is not my misdeed, but that of my captors.
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MaryXmas 7 points 3 months ago
It won't last if that's what you are asking.
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MaryXmas 1 point 3 months ago
Give to Cesar what is Cesar's. It is Caesar's sin.
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MaryXmas 1 point 3 months ago
You could also just use ChatGPT.
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MaryXmas 1 point 3 months ago
So is this the morally high and right path you are advocating? Or should people take corners because they can and should. They deserve that money after all! Sounds like you are advocating for a low trust society of 1 vs all. Be the biggest parasite is what I am hearing.
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MaryXmas 2 points 3 months ago
Samuel is an old testament name ..
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MaryXmas 0 points 3 months ago
Mouser or whiskerjack
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MaryXmas 0 points 3 months ago
I think there is a way around this where an investment fund can insure you house. But I get the idea it is a pretty substantial sum, couple hundred k.
It matters primarily if there is a mortgage because the bank won't take that risk.
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MaryXmas 0 points 3 months ago
Do not hate.
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MaryXmas 0 points 3 months ago
The issue is that you are blaming the world. You will always find something to blame except yourself. Just look at your username. "BannedEverywhere" If you got banned from 109 countries, don't you think you might be acting like a Jew?
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MaryXmas 0 points 3 months ago
Even better. It sounds cheap.
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MaryXmas 2 points 3 months ago
You get to travel with a woman through all the stages of womanhood. You get her perky teen years, peak hips, pregnant big tits, milf + experience, then onto whatever comes next. I am not currently into cougar or granny stuff but I got another few years.
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MaryXmas 0 points 3 months ago
Buy ups and FedEx stock...
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MaryXmas 0 points 3 months ago
You have made your choice.
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MaryXmas 0 points 3 months ago
Trust in the Lord. Everything else will be fine, even in death.
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MaryXmas 0 points 3 months ago
Isn't Trump 47? I don't get it.
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MaryXmas 1 point 3 months ago
Oh yeah, we all got that. It stops after 6 months.
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MaryXmas 2 points 3 months ago
That will take a chunk out of the mortgage. Hoping to get it down to 20k or less by the end of the year. Might be able to swing it. Ps, pay off your debt.
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