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Why modern dating is so bad.

submitted by Merlynn to whatever 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:30:40 ago (+49/-3)     (whatever)

So there are these videos where some guy makes fun of the tiktok feminists and their "dating advice" and if you watch enough of these,you notice a pattern. All of them are about "playing men" and "getting the most out of them". Namely,money,but also privilages,like being able to cheat and get away with it.

On the other side,we have PUAs and "chad behavior" videos that are all about getting women to sleep with you and then,ideally,dumping them.

The thing is,all of these "dating gurus" are giving advice on how to use people and not about finding love. And none of them are talking about the fact most people don't even know how to date properly.

So,to that end,here's how to date properly. The goal of dating is not to "speed run" to the "good bit". It's about slowing down,taking your time,and getting to know each other. If you don't like someone with their clothes on,you're not going to fall in love with their clothes off. You're not going to like someone more with a stomach full of fancy food. All the money in the world won't make someone you hate a good life partner.

If you want sex right off the bat with no strings attached,go to a whore. If you want money from men without a commitment,become a whore. It's just more honest. Dating is for people looking for a committed relationship. If the dating pool is full of whores and johns,it will continue to be a shit show. Look yourself in the mirror and accept what you really want.

And both men and women need to understand the current system is bad for men. Getting married these days is basically handing a woman a "fuck me" button and asking her not to press it. Which she can do at any time for any reason. This needs to change.

As well as alimony being a taxable income. This encourages courts to level heavy alimony payments so they get more tax money. If a man pays 3,000 dollars a month in alimony,and the government gets 1,600 of that,that means the woman is getting 1,400 to live on,which isn't much. So the man's paying too much,the woman's getting too little,and both are basically much more broke than they would've been if they'd stayed together.

Are you starting to see the strings,puppets?


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[ - ] noonefromnowhere -3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:41:36 ago (+1/-4)

If prostitution was legal this would solve a lot of problems.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:47:51 ago (+4/-1)

Not really. You'd still have a bunch of hoes.

[ - ] noonefromnowhere 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:54:29 ago (+1/-1)

Yeah, but they'd be honest whores.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:59:05 ago (+2/-1)

Which is a band-aid on a shotgun wound. It's better but it's not really fixing the problem.

[ - ] SparklingWiggle 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 10:33:16 ago (+0/-0)

You can tell who is a jew in this thread. They just want to get laid. They really don't care about the state of things or looking at the larger, long-term picture.

[ - ] diggernicks -1 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 13:44:39 ago (+0/-1)

You can tell who the Christ cucks are in this thread

They enter into binding rigged legal contracts which only favor women then when they get ass fucked in divorce court say "How could this have possibly happened"

[ - ] SparklingWiggle 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 13:53:18 ago (+0/-0)

The shills are out today. Why would you cime to this site and spout that garbage except to further split the users? You are a fucking jew shill. Here's an idea. Don't get divorced. You stupid, ignorant fuck. You're a degenerate loser that can only conceive of the worst outcomes and want everyone to destroy themselves because of your limited and pessimistic view. Please kill yourself.

[ - ] diggernicks 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 16:18:26 ago (+0/-0)

Take your own advice hypocritical niglet

[ - ] SparklingWiggle 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 17:49:55 ago (+0/-0)

It's not hypocritical advice, you jew. It would be hypocritical advice if I had killed myself, which obviously, I haven't.

You get shit on so much around here, that there's no way you would be here if you weren't getting paid or a total masochist.

Now go be divisive somewhere else and take your buttbuddy goysrus with you.

[ - ] diggernicks 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 00:07:40 ago (+0/-0)

What sort of millenial/gen z failure at life gives a fuck what random strangers on the internet thinks of them?

[ - ] diggernicks -3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:53:43 ago (+1/-4)

Thats how we stopped everyone from doing drugs, making it illegal solved everything

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:55:13 ago (+4/-1)

We have tons of drug addicts because the main way to sell people stuff is to glamourize it so they want to do it. Look up what "glamour" means. It's enlightening.

[ - ] diggernicks -3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:59:51 ago (+1/-4)

We have tons of drug addicts because there's shit loads of $ in treating it

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:07:15 ago (+2/-1)

There's tons of money in selling the poison and treating the effects,both physical and psychological. And the media sells what they want you to buy.

[ - ] diggernicks -4 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:08:56 ago (+0/-4)

Only retarded faggots pay attention to the media

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:17:31 ago (+2/-1)

There's a lot of retarded faggots out there. Lazy parenting and over reliance on "the system".

[ - ] diggernicks -3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:17:35 ago (+1/-4)

@BitterVeteran is a niglet with reddit mentality who get massively fanny flustered when things happen on the internet he doesn't approve of

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:17:56 ago (+1/-1)

Yeah,jews are like that.

[ - ] BitterVeteran 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 12:19:19 ago (+0/-0)

Says the kike that got upset at being corrected.

Projection is a hell of a drug, kike.

[ - ] BitterVeteran -2 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:55:36 ago (+2/-4)

It is common practice to put a space after a comma or colon/semi-colon.

Unless you're a kike. Then do whatever you want and then cry to me about correcting you.

[ - ] diggernicks 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:02:30 ago (+3/-2)

Only super niggers with turbo aids cry oceans over grammer and spelling on the internet

Hypocrisy is the lowest shit tier of failure

[ - ] BitterVeteran -4 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:04:19 ago (+0/-4)

Nope. Only kikes cry when corrected. Fact.

Nice comment, by the way.

Poor grammar, spelling, and syntax are a 100% red flag for a kike shill account.

Thanks for playing.

[ - ] diggernicks -1 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:06:23 ago (+2/-3)

Massive butthurt over things you can't control

Internet working 100% as intended

[ - ] BitterVeteran -3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:09:14 ago (+0/-3)

Projection onto others.

Jewry and faggotry working as intended.

Thanks for playing again, digger/merlynn.

[ - ] diggernicks 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:11:11 ago (+3/-3)

Everything I don't like is jewish

I'm always right, everyone else is always wrong

Never change brainwashed narrow minded voats nigs lol

[ - ] BitterVeteran -1 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:13:38 ago (+0/-1)

More projection and putting words into others' mouths. 100% kike.

This isn't a debate. It is in fact common practice to put a space after mid-sentence punctuation. This is referred to as syntax.

Crying about being corrected... oh wait... you weren't even the one corrected... crying about someone else being corrected is just low-tier hooknosing.

Again, thanks for playing.

[ - ] diggernicks 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:15:46 ago (+1/-1)

Again enjoy your butthurt

Crying harder will surely stop things you don't like from happening

[ - ] BitterVeteran 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:17:53 ago (+0/-0)

More projection from an admitted kike that wasn't even the one corrected.

Crying about someone else being corrected and then trying to flip it onto the other person. Classic kikery.

Thanks for outing your alt.

[ - ] diggernicks -1 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:19:32 ago (+0/-1)

I'm not paranoid if everyone ACTUALLY IS OUT TO GET ME
Continue thread

[ - ] Merlynn [op] -1 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:58:11 ago (+2/-3)

You're not the first to bitch about that. You won't be the last. Go fuck yourself.

[ - ] BitterVeteran -3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:01:06 ago (+0/-3)

Yeah I outed you as a kike on old voat. No difference here. Once a kike; always a kike.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:05:54 ago (+3/-2)

Your jewish projection is showing through your stolen valor.

[ - ] diggernicks 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:33:13 ago (+3/-3)

If you want sex right off the bat with no strings attached,go to a whore. If you want money from men without a commitment,become a whore

Best advice I've seen yet on voat

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:53:45 ago (+4/-1)

No,the best advice is finding someone to love. It's better than most anything.

[ - ] CHIRO 4 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 09:28:31 ago (+4/-0)*

I wish all people could see the Marxist patterns. They are the basis of these subversions, and they are Darwinian/Hegelian in nature. Antimony and competition. Current culture surrounding dating, relationships and marriage has been commoditized in the same way that Marx modeled the unfoldment of history: in economic terms, as a tension between two poles. Everything is explained by that tension, or so these theories go.

Everything becomes about evolutionary psychology and biology, where genes are what count, and male and female are just instruments of the genes. A genome uses man and woman like an avatar in competition. Man against woman. Woman against man. Proletariat versus bourgeoisie, and vice versa.

There's always a triangle in these metaphysical systems, but the triangle is evolved (thanks, Hegel): the two opposites synthesize the third point of the triangle.

A proper metaphysics, a theological one (which Marx was not subtle about wanting to destroy) presupposes the third point pre-exists the other two, and it is transcendent. There is a principle that subordinates the two lower points and orders their behavior. It's not free competition, or at least shouldn't be conceived that way.

Man is supposed to subordinate woman, but not without his own subordination to God. It's a chain. But if you only look at the two lower points, the only thing a person will see is oppression. You need the third point to see order and blessing.

A clever person might now say, "But you did specify a third point to subordinate the lower two. You said that genes subordinate man and woman."

Yes, and now you can see the reversal. The flipping of the triangle. Darwinism/Hegelianism/Marxism are 'bottom-up' theories, where the lower subordinates the higher. The metaphysics that predated these systems were 'top-down': the transcendent descends into reality.

In bottom-up theories, there is no upper limit. The triangle evolves synthetically upward in history, via opposition and conflict. An arms race. In top-down theories, the structure of reality is already complete, and you are instead asking where you fall in it. The highest and most perfect principle is not evolving (not becoming), but already exists and explains the possibility for all other things.

Forget what you think about loaded terms like God for a moment; ask yourself about which theory has more virtue as a worldview, especially in terms of civics and social order.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 20:45:29 ago (+0/-0)

That is a mouthful of bullshit you just spouted.

[ - ] CHIRO 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 21:15:27 ago (+0/-0)

Then it's a good thing you stood off to one side.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 22:14:50 ago (+1/-0)

There's no "off to one side" with a geyser like that.

[ - ] CHIRO 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 22:54:36 ago (+0/-0)

Haha. That was funny. But you weren't coerced when you read it. You could have ignored it. Surely you realized you thought it was bullshit no later than halfway through!

That's like standing overtop of the geyser 'til it stops, after you realized it was shit early on.

Somebody liked the shit a bit more than they're letting on.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 23:30:46 ago (+0/-0)

I was hoping it would make sense,but it's just word salad. What makes you think anyone is going to understand this?

[ - ] CHIRO 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 00:39:43 ago (+0/-0)

It's not just word salad, but it doesn't matter.

As far as whether anybody understands it, I can flaunt my four upvotes. If we can say that a text wall will only be upvoted if it is understood, then I've got four understanding readers. I'm going places, alright.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 03:13:48 ago (+1/-0)

Well,if you want some advice,drop the appeal to authority and just say what you want to say instead of putting up a list of books people have to read to understand your post. It's basically a wall of text built from books you have to read to understand it.
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[ - ] JudyStroyer 3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:02:38 ago (+3/-0)

Excellent write-up, and I especially agree with the part in your comment.I have a boy about to be a teen and I wish the world wasnt so fucked.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 5 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:15:49 ago (+6/-1)

The best advice you can give him is to help him understand that women who fuck around for money isn't "natural" or "normal". It's the result of degenerate crap being spoon fed to them by jew media. A lot of women do it because the electric jew told them it was normal. They've also infantilized everyone as much as possible to make them as dependent on the system as they can. And they gave overly emotional,entitled women the right to ruin men's lives with an accusation. And all of this is portrayed as "good".

In other words,let him know how fucked up the world is and why it's fucked up. And get him to learn all he can to be self-reliant. It's never good for a man to be dependent on a system that hates him.

[ - ] JudyStroyer 2 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:51:41 ago (+2/-0)

Definitely, we homeschool and I am self employed, doing the bulk of my work out of the home. I am very open with him about the state of things. He will do just fine, although I just wish things were different.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 20:41:10 ago (+1/-0)

It's a start to making things different. It took 100 years to get this bad,it'll take some time to get it righted.

[ - ] dingbat 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 09:55:37 ago (+1/-0)

Yes. I’m always on my son about this stuff. Never involve yourself with a slutty girl or a girl who only cares about superficial things. I’m just thankful he doesn’t care about these things yet.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 20:46:48 ago (+0/-0)

He will. Everyone likes easy until you realize easy for you is often easy for everyone else.

[ - ] dingbat 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 21:23:05 ago (+1/-0)

I’m taking every last minute of him not being interested in girls as I can get. It’s kinda sad sometimes watching them grow up. I want my little boy back.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 22:13:32 ago (+1/-0)

He'll always be your little boy,but someday,he'll have to be someone else's daddy. But then you'll have grandkids to play with,so it's all good. But yeah,enjoy this uncomplicated time while you can.

[ - ] diggernicks -2 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:00:45 ago (+1/-3)

You just contradicted yourself, are you a woman?

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:08:24 ago (+2/-1)

Good advice,if you're going to be johns and whores,be honest about it. Best advice,look for love,not just sex and money. That clear enough for you?

[ - ] Wahaha 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 12:21:46 ago (+0/-0)

Looking for love is like looking for a needle in a haystack. And there may not even be a needle. What people have forgotten is that you can love just about anybody you spend a lot of time with. Like your parents, siblings, a pet.. a wife is really no different.

But Jews have trained everyone into believing that arranged marriages are bad and looking for true love is good.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 2 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 21:40:41 ago (+2/-0)

Well,arranged marriages wouldn't work since you're still likely to get a dead eyed whore.

[ - ] Wahaha 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 04:27:48 ago (+0/-0)

Of course, the girls would have to be married off at age 13 or so to prevent exactly this problem.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 14:26:04 ago (+0/-0)

As long as the boys they're married to are about the same age,I'm ok with it. Otherwise,you're just encouraging pedos.

[ - ] Wahaha 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 16:48:07 ago (+0/-0)

You obviously marry them to men with a job. Pedo is about pre-pubescent, at age 13 girls are past that. Or you wait until they are older, but then you need to have girls only schools and avoid them having contact with males, so they don't become damaged goods. Not worth the risk, though, if you ask me.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 17:11:19 ago (+0/-0)

I don't like the idea of marrying off 13 year old girls to 20+ year old men. I can't see that as a healthy relationship.
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[ - ] diggernicks -2 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:09:25 ago (+1/-3)

Youre sharp as a bowling ball

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:22:30 ago (+2/-1)

You wouldn't know sharp if your were split in half with a monofilament blade.

[ - ] diggernicks -2 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 08:41:12 ago (+0/-2)

Gee mister, you sure are using some big words on the internet

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 20:40:07 ago (+0/-0)

Big words for big brains. Which is to say,not for you.

[ - ] HeyJames 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 09:50:25 ago (+0/-0)

[ - ] RedBarchetta 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 11:00:43 ago (+2/-2)

Church. Go to Church. Find a woman with your values.

Oh and I am giving you the benefit of the doubt. Show up. I mean look at the work a woman will do to go out. Don't put on a shirt and call it good. Fucking work on yourself, get a shave, trim and look the part.

[ - ] Bottled_Tears 3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 12:17:11 ago (+3/-0)

I hear this all the time but not once have heard a success story.

[ - ] deleted 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 16:25:12 ago (+1/-0)

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[ - ] germ22 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 13:36:23 ago (+1/-0)

I went to a church event once to see who was all there. Mostly old folk, and the rest a bunch of single moms. I recognized some of them from highschool, they were whores then, wouldn't be surprised if the multiple kids are from multiple fathers.

[ - ] ForgottenMemes 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 13:37:32 ago (+1/-0)

I went to church, there was only one other person under 60 there.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 20:55:02 ago (+0/-0)

Churches are full of faggots,trannies,and whores as well.

[ - ] ForgottenMemes 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 13:50:56 ago (+0/-0)

PUAs have always been a laughing stock, I'm sure these tictok twats are too.

People seem to understand that hard work, good habits and focusing on improving yourself is the way to get good at sports, but they seem to not comprehend that this is the exact same way to be successful at anything, career, dating, weight loss, etc.

All of these advice scams target the same people, same as the Qtard scam, morons who are looking for a quick fix instead of just doing the work. I don't see the presence of scammers as a real problem with the dating world.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 20:58:57 ago (+0/-0)

Everyone starts out stupid. So most people will fall for this shit at least once. A lot will fall for it multiple times. It's all about wasting your time and patience. So yes,they are a problem.

[ - ] dingbat 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 14:35:56 ago (+0/-0)

I think it’s all about self improvement first. If you’re not in a good place yourself, you’re never going to find someone who is on your level. Just focus inward and have faith that the right lady will come around someday; someone who will meet you at your level. And stay the fuck off of online dating sites. Shit tier, shallow people. I remember some of my clients talking about guys they met through online dating. Their complaints were so ridiculous and nitpicky, and I instantly lost respect for them as humans.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 21:04:52 ago (+0/-0)

You do realize most dating sites using a "matchmaking algorithm",right? And (((who))) runs the algorithm? And do you really think (((they))) are going to find you a good match or are they going to match you with some basic bitch who'll treat you like shit and dump you at the first problem?

But yeah,stay off dating sites.

[ - ] PotatoWhisperer 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 15:20:06 ago (+0/-0)

Dating has always been gynocentric. There are other systems out there that have worked much better.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 21:05:41 ago (+0/-0)

A lot of those other systems require someone to care about you. Most people don't have that.

[ - ] Khash1488 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 17:43:17 ago (+0/-0)

The guys are physically weak degenerate faggot wiggers or unfairly incels. While the woman are even worse. We’re so fucked, have you seen the average normie now? Especially the woman, such retarded niggerloving consumer whores

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 21:06:49 ago (+0/-0)

Well,that's what happens when you tell people soy is good for you and that being big and strong means you're probably an oppressor of some kind.

[ - ] Scruffy_Nerfherder 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 20:17:49 ago (+0/-0)

Bingo. I have told all of my kids, keep the clothes on and stay out of the bedroom. You have to see the other person for who they are, not who your hormones want them to be.

Honestly, if I was dating age in this climate, I'd become a priest.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 21:07:13 ago (+0/-0)

Giving up helps no one.

[ - ] maroni 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 11:36:25 ago (+0/-0)

And both men and women need to understand the current system is bad for men.

Terrible for women too.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 14:34:43 ago (+0/-0)

Yeah,but it's the law coming down on men that's stopping them from getting married,thus putting the breaks on everything else. Everything that effects men will effect women in some way too but we must keep the source of the problem in focus.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 21, 2022 05:08:13 ago (+0/-0)

Well,yeah. Make a system that's completely unfair to men,don't expect them to use it.

[ - ] CoronaHoax 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 10:24:53 ago (+1/-0)

If you want sex right off the bat with no strings attached, go to a whore.

This is what I tell people. Just want sex? Then just pay for it. It’ll be cheaper and you’ll like it better.

Trying to recreate what you’ve seen in porn? You’re literally watching a prostitute. If you want to recreate it, literally go hire a prostitute. You’ll have exactly what you saw recreated.

[ - ] Her0n 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 10:37:13 ago (+1/-0)

With prostitutes you’re paying them to leave after the sex is over.

That being said I could never actually go through with it, just my own personal turmoil.

[ - ] AugustineOfHippo2 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 14:27:30 ago (+0/-0)

I could never use a whore. Just really gross that LOTS of other men have used her, and who knows where those men have been!

[ - ] Sleazy 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 18:00:23 ago (+0/-0)

like lots of men havent used the women you date

[ - ] AugustineOfHippo2 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 18:10:25 ago (+0/-0)

dating and prostitution are not the same thing. having had 10 partners in the past, when she was in a relationship with each one, is different than having 10 partners in the just that past day that she didn't even know.

[ - ] Teefinyomouf 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 18:31:38 ago (+0/-0)

Really? I'd think 10 vs 1000 would be significant but 10 vs 10???

[ - ] AugustineOfHippo2 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 13:58:29 ago (+0/-0)

maybe you should re-read: [10 partners in the past] vs. [10 partners in just the past day]
not the same thing.

[ - ] Sleazy 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 18:43:02 ago (+0/-0)

how about a one night stand?

[ - ] Leveraction 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 11:41:36 ago (+1/-0)

Ask yourself, "would I want to date me?"

[ - ] NigsGonnaNog 2 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 16:54:35 ago (+2/-0)

No, that'd be gay as fack bro. I don't date faggots.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 20:56:36 ago (+1/-0)

I'm not into dudes.

[ - ] fnbs 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 11:37:42 ago (+1/-0)

"It's about slowing down,taking your time,and getting to know each other."

And there in lies the problem.... with social media and an attention span of a housefly most people have these days, as soon as one becomes a little bit bored with their new relationship they turn their attention to facebook or twitter or any one of many crap dating sites out there to find someone else without trying to work on what they already have

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 20:56:05 ago (+1/-0)

Yup. Which is why you should do that thing I talked about. Slow down and get to know them.

[ - ] xenoPsychologist 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 14:35:34 ago (+1/-0)

alimony is only an encouragement to break the relationship/family. it should not exist anymore.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 21:01:47 ago (+0/-0)

Yeah,I bet the government's going to give up it's free money for the betterment of the institution of marriage.

[ - ] xenoPsychologist 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 03:57:06 ago (+0/-0)

oh, then i guess you are right. there is no solution to anything other than crying.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 04:02:33 ago (+1/-0)

Well,there's one other solution. A rather final one.

[ - ] xenoPsychologist 1 point 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 04:03:41 ago (+1/-0)

well, let me know when its time for that. id gladly help.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 14:25:15 ago (+0/-0)

Ok,when the shooting starts,get out there and join in.

[ - ] xenoPsychologist 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 14:37:55 ago (+0/-0)

thats code for never, right?

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 16:30:42 ago (+0/-0)

Basically,the only way this is going to work is if enough people get sick enough of the lies and bullshit and death to actually stand up and do something. We're waiting for that and planning for if it doesn't happen to at least save ourselves. It takes at least 10% of the population to make Hitler happen. But the jews will try to stop it at all costs.

Still,as more and more of the population trust the media less and less,maybe it'll happen sooner than we think.

[ - ] 2Drunk 2 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 10:48:12 ago (+2/-0)

I tried slowing down and taking time. Somehow she wasn't impressed taking time to roast the Jew over an open fire. I just don't get women at all.

[ - ] NuckFiggers 2 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 14:21:25 ago (+2/-0)

The last few times I met a woman on a date she would end up unloading all her emotional bullshit about her parents, her ex husband, etc just looking for someone to cry to. If you think men are out to get sex, women are out to get someone to give them emotional support, neither of which you should expect on a first date. It's really presumptuous.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 21:00:32 ago (+1/-0)

There is no emotional support for anyone anymore.

[ - ] dingbat 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 14:38:05 ago (+0/-0)

Yes.

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[ - ] xmasskull 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 13:04:55 ago (+0/-0)

"a road fraught with peril" That's an understatement.

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[ - ] Jewfed9000 -1 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 15:58:54 ago (+0/-1)

Cope

[ - ] big_fat_dangus -2 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 10:28:35 ago (+0/-2)

This is the big brain take.

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[ - ] Goatslayer -1 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 11:19:37 ago (+1/-2)

We all know you're an incel, though.

[ - ] Kozel 8 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 11:51:39 ago (+8/-0)

Is that worse than being raped by father as child and then growing to become goatslayer?

[ - ] big_fat_dangus 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 11:58:59 ago (+0/-0)

Ahcktshoouallliey nah. We do know you're a tranny though.

[ - ] AugustineOfHippo2 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 14:22:30 ago (+0/-0)

hey, ching-chong-ding-dong the paid shill is back. he must have needed more money for egg-foo-dung, cause the gutter oil business is a little slow, so he's hoping to get some pennies from his gay overlords by posting crap here.

[ - ] aether1 -3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 10:45:13 ago (+2/-5)

Yes, good goy! Hate women! Don't reproduce!

[ - ] localsal 5 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 10:37:20 ago (+5/-0)

The whole fiasco called "dating" has descended to "put on enough fakery (both parties) so that the real you is hidden enough so the other person likes you enough to move forward."

Dressing up for the date, mounds of makeup, going someplace fancy, etc.... does that represent a person's daily life? Not usually.

And the conversations are typically so superficial to keep the other person from screaming and running away from the real you.

Society has crafted this "ideal" of the dating world, where conversations are "deep and meaningful" but that doesn't happen. Daters hardly ever talk about sex, or love, or expectations, etc.

It's not hard to like the superficial layer of most people, but what does it take to love the real you?

Everyone puts on masks all the time. Are you the real "you" at work? Are you the real "you" with your parents? out in public? in church? etc.

The whole "debt free virgins without tattoos" meme went viral because it was something few people actually talk about on dates, but men innately desire.

Getting expectations out there up front (both parties) would make dating a lot more productive.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 21:37:54 ago (+1/-0)

The "debt free virgins without tattoos" is about what makes a high quality woman. It's the male equivalent to the "6 feet,6 figures,6 inches" thing. And yes,I noticed the 666 theme there too. It was to show what women needed to be to be equal to the triple 6.

But yeah,the insidiousness of "lie your ass off" dating strats are not only do you not give someone the chance to love the real you,you're basically admitting the real you is unworthy of love since you "have to be someone else to get people to like you". It's a double ended dildo that fucks you and the person you're trying to attract.

[ - ] SirNiggsalot 6 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:51:02 ago (+6/-0)

Jews have so corrupted our society with porn that people don't know what a healthy relationship looks like , never mind having one.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 7 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 07:57:36 ago (+8/-1)

No,most people know porn isn't a guideline to a healthy relationship. It's more a replacement for sex. What makes people have unhealthy relationships is crap like Sex in the City and chick flicks where the guys basically bend over backwards to please their woman and movies for dudes where they go through hell for sex. Not love,just sex.

[ - ] AugustineOfHippo2 11 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 09:28:37 ago (+11/-0)

It's about slowing down,taking your time,and getting to know each other.

absolutely! if a person is only interested in the physical, then there will never be a true connection. One problem is that most modern people have been convinced that physical attraction or good sex is equal to love. Another problem is that most people don't realize how much work marriage and kids require, and are not mature enough to handle either. That is why, when times get tough, marriages break.

[ - ] Her0n 6 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 10:35:35 ago (+6/-0)

It’s so damn hard to not fall back into my toxic past. I can be an insufferable asshole if I don’t temper myself. People get into relationships thinking they won’t need to grow and change, let alone accept when their partner fails in their attempts to better themselves. Change is difficult and takes time.

“Take a moment and ask yourself if this is how the relationship ends.”

[ - ] AugustineOfHippo2 3 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 11:18:40 ago (+3/-0)

It’s so damn hard to not fall back into my toxic past. I can be an insufferable asshole if I don’t temper myself.

you and me both, bud! but that is what makes you a better person, that you actually TRY. looking in the mirror and knowing you need to grow, improve, change, and accepting that and at least trying to achieve it.
One of the biggest faults of the brainwashed masses is lack of self-awareness. they truly think they are perfect and don't need to change. it is everyone else who needs to change to their mind-set. so few humble people in the world today.


[ - ] Her0n 5 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 12:46:23 ago (+5/-0)

Better every day.

A real man measures his worth against the man he was yesterday.

[ - ] AugustineOfHippo2 2 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 13:26:52 ago (+2/-0)

A real man measures his worth against the man he was yesterday.

good quote, i will shamelessly appropriate that from you.

another one i like is:

the true character of a man is discovered by what he does when no one is watching and he can get away with anything

my wording needs a little work, but i think you get the idea.

[ - ] Her0n 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 13:36:39 ago (+1/-0)

I didn’t come up with that quote.

I like the quote you mentioned, reminds me of “Watch how one treats those they deem ‘less than them’ to see their true spirit.” Or something like that… I’m sure you can determine the meaning from that.

[ - ] Fascinus 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 17:31:39 ago (+0/-0)

Cherish some man of high character, and keep him ever before your eyes, living as if he were watching you, and ordering all your actions as if he beheld them.

-Epicurus

[ - ] dingbat 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 14:36:19 ago (+0/-0)

That’s my favorite mantra.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 2 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 21:23:19 ago (+2/-0)

There's only so much "work" a marriage should be. If you can't solve most issues with some polite discussion,you're probably not a good match.

[ - ] AugustineOfHippo2 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 09:31:11 ago (+0/-0)

I guess a definition of "work" would be in order. I don't think work is only about problems and arguments. The work of marriage is taking the time to buy flowers once in a while, remembering anniversaries, taking the kids when the spouse needs a break, etc. Yes, there is work that involves figuring out issues and problems, but a lot of the work is in building the relationship in a positive way, searching and finding ways to grow together. If there is nothing but problems and arguing in a marriage, then something is broken and probably needs professional help.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 14:32:50 ago (+0/-0)

That's hardly work. The work of marriage is getting along with each other. Chores and errands are things that need be done. But the work of a marriage is knowing how to deal with the same person day after day after day. That's the hurdle everyone's falling at because they don't select mates by their ability to get along. They're choosing who turns them on. And the people who turn you on aren't always the best people to get along with.

If you have someone you can get along with,you have a perfect mate. That's what people should be selecting for. Not the instant gratification of someone you just want to bang.

[ - ] FalseRealityCheck 1 point 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 18:28:26 ago (+1/-0)

Another problem is that most people don't realize how much work marriage and kids require, and are not mature enough to handle either. That is why, when times get tough, marriages break.
So true; I've seen it many times.

[ - ] Bottled_Tears 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 12:16:20 ago (+0/-0)

I've tried every way possible for 2 years now. Mostly the slow method. Women are on a new level of narcissism and too many options for decisions that causes confusion.

[ - ] Merlynn [op] 0 points 3 yearsApr 5, 2022 21:22:17 ago (+0/-0)

Well,you can either try to fix them or keep looking.

[ - ] maroni 0 points 3 yearsApr 6, 2022 11:37:11 ago (+0/-0)

You're looking in the wrong places.